I feel uncomfortable being sexual with my husband?

Try having a glass of wine.

My husband is actually a premature ejaculator. So when we are intimate he is very fast and then we wait or just fool around till he is ready again and then he will last a long time before he ejaculates again.

But this makes me irritated and sometimes I dont even want to have sex cause the wait in between kinda ruins it for me and I just want to go take a shower. So sometimes I drink wine in between while im waiting for him to be ready again and that gets me in the mood again and helps me not feel so irritated or lose interest.

I know alcohol is not the best solution but once in a while it can be helpful.

Or you can pretend your in a pornography movie and jsut let yourself go LOL! Hes your husband so dont be shy he loves you and your body! Your been through a lot together!

I think what's going on is you are afraid of him having the dysfunction again. It was probably very frightening for you both. All I can say is that you can't let fear get to you. Sex should be fun. Maybe a good, honest talk is in order to express your concern.

I know how you feel. I am in my mid 40's, I love my husband very much but when comes to having sex, I am just not interested. I hate myself for doing this but I always pretend to enjoy it. I am afraid if I tell my husband I will loose him. What do I do????? I wish you all the best.

The best way to stop being shy, in my experience with my husband (before we were married) is to just muster up the courage and go for it :)

It is SO perfect.

You loved him and cared for him when he was broken.

He can return the love and care in exactly the same way. He was hesitant and probably didn't think he could trust you to love him in spite of his ED. Learn from his example. You CAN trust him to love and care for you. It's only because of his problem that you have yours now.

He was in a kind of wheelchair for years and you pushed him slowly where he wanted to go. Now that he's up and running around, you need time to get in shape from going slow for him for those years. Fair is fair. Tell him that you trust him to care for you like you cared for him.

You might be blaming yourself for his problem. Which makes you feel a little shy about what you do in the bedroom. Just let go and have fun. : )