M&D: HELP! I need answers!! :)?

Marriage is the combining of two lives into one. It is a business arrangement of sorts. I think you have to come to agreements about virtually everything from a business standpoint(bank accounts, insurance, etc.) Probably didn't consider any of this, but you have to. This has caused so many marriages to end in divorce. Marriage is more than how someone feels about the other. You don't want to get in a situation where you're in a parent-child relationship with your spouse. You need to know what it's like to live on your own before living with someone you want to start a long term relationship with.

I would not get married at your age without being on your own first. I lived on my own since I was 19, waited until I was 28 to get married, had a good job and got credit in my own name. Guess what? After being with the same man for 29 years married for 20, he up and met someone else and left me. Due to my prior life experiences, I was able to go out and get a place to live in my name and go back to work with no problems. I knew how to take care of me!

Finish school, move out and enjoy your youth. If this man loves you he will wait. Trust me!

PS Keep your credit in "your" own name even after marriage!

It is a very difficult decision. Women have been getting married and moving straight from their father's house to their husband's house since the beginning of marriage, but with the changes over the past century there is a great amount of stress in doing that now. It isn't that it cannot be done successfully. It is just an extra challenge for your young marriage. Would you be able to completely trust him with everything because he has already done it on his own? Would you start to regret to never getting the opportunity to have your own life? You would never truly know what it is like. I personally recommend that everybody have the chance to have their own lives before they dedicate it to another person, but that is only in personal observation watching the failed first marriage of my father, my brother, and now my own. In both of their cases, they were the ones that never had their own life and in my case it is my wife that never had that chance. She is very young too and I can tell that she has some regret in never having lived her life before getting married. I know it has caused a great deal of stress for me too even though I thought I would always be ok with it, but I was wrong. Don't get me wrong though. It didn't work for us, but it has worked for millions if not billions of other people. It really depends on your own personal situation and how you deal with it. Think about five years down the road in either scenario and figure out where you see yourself. Finances are the number one killer of young marriages, but it really depends on how you two deal with and communicate about your own issues. I know this didn't really help or give an answer, but I hope that it helped give some insight.

I'm a bit concerned about the "off and on" part of your description of the history of relationship -- you can't be married off and on -- it's always on. Are you ready for that? Is he?

How is he at being faithful to you? How are you at being faithful to him? When you have fights, do you both fight fair?

What is is about you lack of experience being on your own in the world which scares you?

You're both of age, so why not try living together for a while and see how you both feel about marriage a year rom now?