If someone asked you out even though they are married would you tell their spouse?

Good for you!!! This is HIS problem, he should not be bringing you into it just due to your past you two had together. And, NO I would not get involved in any way with his wife. Again, this is HIS problem, let HIM learn how to handle & how to manage his own life, his own problems when they arise. He can't keep running to others to bail him out when he needs to learn how to solve his own problems. Steer clear of it all & have a clear conscious knowing you didn't get involved in hurting anyone...Happy Holidays, honey...:)

I'll ask you back: why WOULD you tell his wife? What would that do you for you? For him? For her?

Would you tell her by way of an apology? If you'd had the affair, I could see that: you might end it, and try to assuage your guilt by telling her, and apologizing. Sure. But you've done nothing wrong here; you haven't harmed her in any way. You've taken the honorable route (good work), deferring your gratification. So you don't owe her anything.

Would you tell her as a way to strike at him somehow? Because it would certainly hurt him if you did; he would see it as a betrayal. But from what you say, you have no reason to attack him. You and he are doing fine. No reason to tell there.

Would you tell her as a way to strike at her? Because it would certainly hurt her too. But you don't seem to bear her any ill will. You're not trying to break up their marriage so you can get him, are you? Stop and think seriously if that's what you're doing, because if so, it changes everything. If so, don't do that. Let the marriage fall apart if it will, and *then* you can come in, if you like. Don't tell her in the hopes that she'll leave him, and you'll get him, please.

Would you tell her because you want to teach him a lesson? That you have such a strong objection to what he's done (propositioning another woman while monogamous) that you want to put him through hell to teach him the error of his ways? I suspect that's what you're really thinking here, but cut him some slack. What he's doing is pretty lame, but he can make his own stew without you stirring. Maybe he's already realized what a bad idea it was, and he's glad you didn't take him up on it, and he's reformed his thinking on this, and is returning to devote himself again to his wife; and what if you came with your tattle *then*? Really, this is between him and his conscience, and he has plenty of thinking to do. If you want to help there, talk directly to him and let him know what you think of his behavior. Maybe you and he can have a serious conversation about it, and you can bring him around to your way of thinking, and save his marriage instead of wrecking it.

You did the right thing by saying no. However, telling his wife is a bit of a different thing. Do you know his wife, at all? You haven't seen him in 15 years, and if you're interested in any kind of relationship with the man, even a platonic one, you're going to have to tread carefully.

Does she deserve to know what he's trying to do? Yes. Do you want to get personally involved to tell her? That's up to you. I'd really suggest you try to keep it anonymous if you possibly can. You probably don't want to get caught in between the squabbling couple if you can avoid it.

since you dont know her dont tell her. Just leave it at that, you arent going to have sex with him and delete all contact with him. Women (like his wife) may think he actually did mess around with you if she were to check his FB, even though you didn't, and who knows, she may have never cheated on him and he is just telling you this to agree to it or may not be telling you the whole story. play it safe and stop talking to him, getting revenge on his wife by cheating back, if thats really what happened, is not the way to go.

I'm glad you said no, you only have his version of events regarding her cheating and you have no place putting yourself in the middle of someone elses marriage.

I wouldn't bother telling his wife because nothing happened and you only make yourself look like a threat to her marriage when you've already proven that you're not. Nothing good can come of telling her at this point.

From the way it sounds this modification into one among those romantic open mouth kisses. you need to be ordinary with your self right here, you purely allowed that guy to kiss you simply by fact there substitute into some attration there, you mentioned you and the husband had problems yet you do not way what, have been they issues of intimacy? something allowed you to permit somebody else to kiss you and you need to dig down and locate out what that regulate into and artwork on it so as that it will not take place back. Now you mentioned you have previous problems and that i inform you what, if there substitute into no way my husband ought to locate out I kissed this guy, i might take it to my grave. you have advised the suitable one "God" and you have asked for forgiveness now circulate on. subsequently, that may not a sturdy time to open up and tell simply by fact its going to make concerns worse. Cherish your marriage and no remember how issues look sturdy or undesirable, please do not enable every physique come between you and your husband. sturdy success to you and that i think you will not cheat back, arise and be the forged woman which you're and stay as much as the vows you and your husband shared. sturdy success to you

I think you should tell her. That will make him think twice before he ever plans to cheat on her again.

Who knows whether he was lying about his wife cheating on her? Maybe it was an excuse to get some sympathy sex from you? Don't ever fall into emotional manipulation and stand by the truth. Tell his wife, he deserves it.

i have a feeling that he made up this cheating wife thing , he just wants you

you can tell her that he was suggesting that you should meet him and tell her that this would be a good idea to for you to meet her

If she's not your friend I'd just stay out of it. Suggest to him that he needs to get counseling along with her. If he's not one for counseling ask him some questions that he should be asking himself, for one will he be able to ever forgive her and if he thinks he will ever get it out of his mind and will he picture her having sex with whoever she cheated with. If he doesn't think he will be able to get it out of his mind or really forgive her then he needs to move on. But I wouldn't say anything to his wife unless she reaches out to you and asks.

I wouldn't. She probably already knows he's not happy. You'd just get stuck in the middle of something.