ex husband keeps kids sleep divprived?

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My ex husband has my kids two school nights and wakes them by being being loud on his video games each of those nights. We divorced almost 8 years ago and he still won't talk to me about the kids although I do email him notices from their schools (days off, concerts etc). He is constantly pissed off at me (we don't even talk and it has been years for God's sake) and tells the kids I'm a witch (they know better and know dad is lacking in self control). The kids have told him that him that they wake them up in the middle of the night and he calls them whiners and that sleep is a luxury. They are teenagers and need their sleep (at least 8 to 9 hours a night). How can can I get him to be be quite when the kids are asleep without going through an attorney? The lack of sleep is affecting their school work and when they come home to me they just want to crash. It takes about two days before they aren't continually sleepy. What can I do?

Update:

He has headphones it the microphone that he talks to in the night that is the problem. I will suggest that they don't spend the night with him if they want to. That was a great idea!

Update 2:

Wish I could talk to him face to face, the last time I tried he called the cops and said I was stalking him (like I have time for that). That was only a year ago and I was civil and merely asked to speak with him about one of our girls. He is a bitter pissed off man.

Mags · Accepted Answer

Why don't they just visit during th eday. The kids should be old enough to decide who they want to stay with.

They could always just visit and then go home. Maybe he'd smarten up that way.

Otherwise you'd have to go through an attorney. My husband just left me and never discusses anything with me. It'd be much cheaper and more effective if he did. You'd think I was the one that cheated up and left the marriage. Oh well! Adult boys I think. Especially if he's waking them up with video games. He should get headphones. Maybe buy him a set for Christmas? Then the games wouldn't wake the kids.

Oh gosh how annoying! My future ex was a gamer....never again! He kept me up some nights with that stupid headset. I enjoy gaming sometimes but he was excessive, especially when it comes to affect his kids sleep.
I remember my friend not wanting to visit her dad for whatever reason and she was a young teenager....not even a teenager I don't think. She just did not want to go. The brother never went and she went maybe once a month if that. Goodluck! ALSO.....that friend is closer with her father now than she ever was as a kid. So it didn't damage the relationship in that sense. Maybe he just needs to realize and grow up.

seedy history · Answer

Your teenage kids are the first teenagers I've ever heard of who got 8 or more hours a night sleep. Virtually unheard of in my life. And I've lived with teenagers, been a teenager, worked with teenagers and currently am involved in a project that involves 7 teenagers. ZERO of them got, or get, 8 or more hours of sleep a night. 

When the kids quit wanting to visit their Dad... get involved. Up until then, whine or complain or sleep late the next morning... as long as they still want to go visit their Dad, stay out of the way.

? · Answer

Wow. You're ex-husband seems really immature. The best advice I can give is to contact him directly. Maybe even face to face. Tell him your concerns. Good luck!

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