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? asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 8 years ago

My friend can't take a joke, now he is mad how do i fix it?

So my friend and I just hung out all day, after I get home, he texts me something funny that he was trying to do before I left told me it worked but still wasn't good. Before I left he told me something out of context something that had no meaning at the time. It was about this girl, who has a boyfriend, though he likes her. So as a joke I text him, that she texted me asking about him. Just to **** with him. Though the who thing turned to ****. He took it so personal, said I could never be trusted again, offered to return everything I ever gave him. Said he told me that in private, which I replied yeah, and I sent that joke to you in private. Then I go off sending this super long message apologizing and explaining that we are friends, that I would never betray him. Also why get mad at me over this girl, that is ALREADY TAKEN. I asked him to rethink his action, before he says the wrong thing. After that he backed off the attack, though the tension is still there. Said we are still friends but that he will never trust me again. I told him how can we be friends if you don't trust me. I even said heck man I will even prove it to you. I NEVER FREAKING LIE ( Okay one lie, to him.). Heck man I even gave up on my girl because he said she wasn't good for me. I FREAKING GAVE UP ON HER, (did) because everyone hated her, and he told me that I should forget her, that she isn't good for me. SHE IS A DREAM GIRL. Anyways I gave up on a girl, because my friend said so, and here he is giving up on me because of a girl. PS. I NEVER GAVE UP ON HER SSSHHH. We talk all the time, she is freaking perfect. SSSHHHH. I just told him I did. Though that is not the point. The point is why, why, why, why, get so freaking mad over a joke, that you would throw away your friend for?

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  • 8 years ago
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    Well, it WAS a stupid joke. If the guy is in love, you played with his feelings, you raised his hopes when in reality there are none.

    Plus you're not honest with him about your girlfriend. You told him you gave her up when you didn't. Why didn't you have the balls to say "look, you may not like her but I do like her a lot, so make your peace with that".

    What kind of friendship is that, with all that lying? I fully understand that he doesn't trust you anymore, and if he knew the stuff about your girl he would be confirmed in his opinion that you're not trustworthy.

    If you really value this friendship and you want to fix, you might try this.

    Meet him (not texts and such, meet face to face, please!!!!) and tell him:

    I know I've said a couple of lies to you. Not only that stupid joke, but also another one, because I value your friendship and wanted to be accepted by you. I will tell you what it was, but only after I assure you that I've decided I want us to be really good friends with no other lies between us, not ever. And if you discover I ever lied to you in the future, you have every right of not speaking to me again, ever. So now, the second lie was about that girl I liked. I still like her, I think she's perfect for me. I know you disagree, but you'll have to live with that. Friends don't have to agree on everything. So now I've come clean, and swear not to pretend anymore, do you want us to be friends, real friends?"

    Something like that, in your own words of course. Try and see how it goes.

  • 8 years ago

    Explain to him the way you are explaining to us. Tell him how you feel, and actually mean it. If he still doesn't budge, just give it some time. If he's really your friend, he'll notice the value of you Guy's friendship. Good luck :)

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