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How to deal with dirty dishes?

It's only been 4 months! I'm already looking for a new place to move into for august/september!

I live with 4 other students. 2 of my housemates leave dirty dishes lying there for days, sometimes even a week unwashed.

The 3 of us have talked to them about this in a group meeting, where everyone's feelings were talked about. We said that we understand that it does not have to be washed straightaway, they said they would wash their dishes the morning after. That was what they said, but since then they have gone home for 4 days and left their dirty dishes, knowing that they won't be there to clean it. Once, I had come down and there was a bug left on a dish that they surprisingly washed but left out to dry. I'm just talking about cleanliness and consideration for others. They have reverted back to their disgusting behaviour. Even though, there is washing bowl that they have, that we put their dirty dishes in, it is still there and is annoying me.

Over the holidays: before I left the house to go back home, I left a note above the sink saying that no dishes to be left out whether clean or uncleaned, you've been warned, the ending was meant to be lighthearted. The note was a reminder, not an insult, I mentioned no names and similar notes reminding students to clean up before holidays had been pinned up in the university's communal kitchen. But, looking back now, perhaps a note was not a good idea as it can be read differently, however I am not able to catch them all at the same time to talk to them and how can I trust them to clean up without me there, if they haven't cleaned up while I've been living there?

The two people then overreacted, saying I should have spoke to them, calling me pathetic and immature. But what is the point, if I have spoken to them about their dishes before and they had taken no notice? I should not really have to be speaking to 19 year old students about this issue.

I can't put their dishes in their cupboard as my other housemate who I have no problems with, shares the cupboard with the two. I don't want to, nor should I have to wash their dishes up for them, I'm not a cleaner and they would not learn from it.

I've just had enough of their lies- that they are reusing a baking tray or whatever, blaming each other: that the dirty dishes are not mine, it is (insert name) (all 3 of us have eyes and live there, we know what goes on) and their insults.

No excuses, it doesn't take long to do the dishes.

note: my boyfriend got mad after they left their dishes unwashed, when they went back homes for 4 days and left one of their plates out in the garden. They still have not noticed that their plate is out there or missing.

Update:

I have confronted them face to face a couple of times.

Update 2:

I have confronted them face to face a couple of times.

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  • 8 years ago
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    I lived in a similar situation and, after discussing various options, we all agreed that no dirty dishes would be left over night. So the clean ones agreed to house our own dishes until the point was received and understood. Any dirty dishes left out overnight we then smashed and put in the bin.

    An over reaction? Not for the ones who stored our own crockery. As for the dirty people, once they realised that they had to buy new crockery found not only where the sink was, but also the washing up liquid, sponge and drying cloth.

    KD

  • 8 years ago

    Yeah, throw the dirty dishes in their room. Or, you will either have to accept it, because the house is just as much their's as it is your's, and that makes it no ones. A compromise by definition is when no one is happy. Yes, your note could have been read wrong, notes really piss people off. If you are not prepared to confront them without using a note then you have to live with it.

    Source(s): I have lived with roommates for the past 8 years, sometime conflict free, sometimes not.
  • 8 years ago

    Living with roommates is not always easy, even if they are good friends. Before you live together with other people it is best to establish house rules before you live together to avoid conflicts, and even then it won't always work. Sometimes you really don't get to know people until you live with them.

    Source(s): Life experience
  • 8 years ago

    Get paper plates

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    8 years ago

    So next time put them in their bed.

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