Marriage: What is your take on the roles of husband and wife?

If the man gives his answer as authoritative, he is culpable before God. He has the position of leadership, but that also means that it is his head on the chopping block.

Some dummies will try and abuse this .. they don't take the time to think about the long term consequences. Seriously, God let you take care of his little girl, then you lie about the word, and you take full responsibility for that abuse - you are in for a spanking. I don't want any of that fire... ouch.

More seriously - the dumb world isn't capable of treating the material like it didn't come from idiots so when they think "roles" they immediately go into pedophile priests or female subjugation.. bad road of thought there.

Everyone has roles. Whether or not they formalize them, or how effectively negotiated, everyone has roles with everyone else in their lives. If you think about it, you can see that every marriage, every relationship, has to work out the balances. That is what healthy relationships do - they find the life-giving (that is what healthy means) ... they find the life-giving balances.

Good luck finding your balances.

Edit: If by answering a technical/theological, you knew you were putting the responsibility and culpability on yourself, how well would you work to find the best answer possible? Would you go to other sources? Would you work hard to make the question-asker capable of answering their own questions well, so that their culpability was on them and not on you?

Men and ladies's roles in society and marriage are exclusive BUT similarly primary. A society might endure with out ladies as undoubtedly because it might with out guys. What I imply whilst I inform folks that we're "complimentary" is that this: One has attributes and capabilities that the opposite does not and in combination the 2 make a entire. It is a lovely factor whilst it really works out. And that is going for marriage as good. I does not imply that the connection should be inflexible with each frozen of their tasks, both part can and will have to support and proportion with the opposite for the higher well. Call me historic long-established in case you like however concord in a dating is anything sorely absent at the present time.

The roles of husband and wife imo depend on the husband and wife in question. For instance, a very religious Christian couple might interpret their roles differently than a very religious Sikh couple (who consider men and women to be equals) and very differently from a couple who is not religious at all.

As for religious Christians. My aunt is a very religious Christian and here is what she told me after 35 or so years of marriage and a divorce (her husband left her after he went through a very bad experience in his life). "I used to believe that I was supposed to obey everything my husband said and submit to him but I now realize that my relationship with G-d came first and I should never have obeyed anything from my husband that made me feel uncomfortable with my relationship with G-d."

I have also read that Christian husbands are supposed to love their wives "like Christ loved the church". In other words, to love their wives completely and to sacrifice for them. Thus, both husband and wife submit to each other in a sense.

As for me and my marriage? My husband and I are equals. I do show respect towards him and love him but he does the same for me. It would be hard for me to have agreed to a marriage where the husband is in charge b/c what about when the husband is "wrong"? Some men gamble away the rent money or think it's okay to hit their wives for disobedience...And in a good marriage men and women both bring equal value to the marriage so why emphasize one person over the other? Marriage is sacred and therefore it should bring out the best in both people and should be a team effort. That's just my opinion...

I do not fault or praise your dedication to the bible or the philosophy contained in it. I do believe that there are far too many people who take the bible literally, word for word and attempt in vain to apply 1000 yr old documents and parables to current times. The bible was written, and I do agree it is an inspired book of God. That said, it was written in and for pagans, and at the time had no direction, god fearing faith, and had to be be brow beaten into acceptance. Today, the bible can be used as a guide, and referenced for guidance and then applied to your daily life with modification to suit the times. Not one spot in the bible deals with the technology of today, good or bad,and never considered the widespread media involvement. Take the bible with a grain of salt, pray for guidance and you will never go wrong, or feel second to any man, woman, or child.

Hey the head cant move without the neck to support it :) My husband may be the head but I am the neck and we make a good team. Having roles doesnt make one better than the other. It offers balance as men and women tend to have different strong points. I go by the Quran not the bible but same concept.

Submission as I understand it is not subservient - it is the realization that if a man really loves you as the bible says he should - he loves you as he does his own body and would never choose to harm you or choose any course you would not desire for your good. Also it means you fear God more than your husband and will never obey him in sin. It is trust as your trust god not submission as an non entity

As far as asking the husband I believe that stems from Paul's writing which were culturally influenced and not applicable in a direct manner today

My take on the roles of husband and wife is that each should do, or at least try to do, what makes the other happy; and not-do what makes them unhappy.

It's simple, ethical, practical, not always possible, but usually a good idea!

You have to look at the scripture in its entirety.

Ephesians 5:22-33

New International Version (NIV)

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

No where does it say that the wife must ask permission from her husband to do anything. It really only says that she is to follow his Godly leadership. A wife should never submit to a husband that does not love her as he loves himself.

I understand how you feel...

Does submission to a husband’s headship mean that women are silent partners in marriage, having no voice in family matters or other subjects? Not at all. Women as well as men are given many privileges by Jehovah. Just think of the great honor that 144,000 individuals have in being kings and priests in heaven under Christ when he rules over this earth! That number includes women. (Gal. 3:26-29) Obviously, Jehovah has given women an active role in his arrangement of things.

In Bible times, for example, women prophesied. Joel 2:28, 29 foretold: “I shall pour out my spirit on every sort of flesh, and your sons and your daughters will certainly prophesy. . . . Even on the menservants and on the maidservants in those days I shall pour out my spirit.”

Some 120 disciples of Jesus who were gathered in an upper room in Jerusalem on the day of Pentecost in 33 C.E. included women as well as men. God’s spirit was poured out on this entire group. Peter could therefore quote what the prophet Joel had foretold and apply it to men and women alike. Peter stated: “This is what was said through the prophet Joel, ‘And in the last days,’ God says, ‘I shall pour out some of my spirit upon every sort of flesh, and your sons and your daughters will prophesy . . . ; and even upon my men slaves and upon my women slaves I will pour out some of my spirit in those days, and they will prophesy.’”—Acts 2:16-18.

In the first century, women played a significant part in spreading Christianity. They preached to others about God’s Kingdom and did things related to that preaching work. (Luke 8:1-3) For example, the apostle Paul called Phoebe “a minister of the congregation that is in Cenchreae.” And in sending greetings to fellow workers, Paul mentioned a number of faithful women, including “Tryphaena and Tryphosa, women who are working hard in the Lord.” He also noted “Persis our beloved one, for she performed many labors in the Lord.”—Rom. 16:1, 12.

In our time, a large part of the more than seven million people preaching the good news of God’s Kingdom throughout the world are women of all ages. (Matt. 24:14) Many of them are full-time ministers, missionaries, and members of Bethel families. The psalmist David sang: “Jehovah himself gives the saying; the women telling the good news are a large army.” (Ps. 68:11) How true these words have proved to be! Jehovah values the part women play in declaring the good news and accomplishing his purposes. His requirement that Christian women be in submission surely does not mean silent subjection.

Hope it will help!

We can talk further about it if you want, my S.K.Y.P.E name is dateecha

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