When Someone Is Killed In War, Do They Only Visit The Homes Of Imediate Family To Tell Them What Happened?

All members of the military have a "Next Of Kin" notification card in their file.....the person or persons named on that card are notified in the event of injury or death.....fiances and girlfriends/boyfriends are NOT "kin".....and can not be placed on the card or notified

SHADOW...."No card"....Funny after 30 years of maintaining that "Next of Kin" Notification Card....even had trouble getting my ex-wife removed from that card.....I find it does not exist..... wish you would have told me before.....I would have saved a lot of time

Spouse or Next of Kin, unless they are on a Do Not Notify list, usually do to poor health. Girlfriends or boyfriends are nothing to the military.

Only next of kin (spouse, family), and not just in war.

There is no CARD on file. We don't use cards. It is part of a member's personnel file as to who is next of kin.

Case in point, old shipmate of mine was divorced, got a live in girlfriend. He was leaving the base one day on his motorcycle and a woman ran the red light and hit him. He was in a coma for almost a week. He died without his gf being able to see him. When he died, she had to move out of his apartment since she was not his spouse and not on the lease. His parents got the insurance and his belongings. She wasn't notified until she called his shop to find out why he hadn't come home yet.

WHY? Because as a 'girlfriend', she was non-existent as far as the military was concerned.

And live in girlfriends, get married because it's more than JUST A PIECE OF PAPER.

Yes.

"Probably A Stupid Question"

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