My mom's gone away, I feel like I'm breaking down..?

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i'm 18. i've been in this situation before where my mom has had to go away for up to two weeks at a time and i've always been fine with it. my gran wanted to go abroad for a while and cos she's ill my mom was the only person who could go with her as she knows her inside out. we've just got back from dropping them off at the airport and i'm having such a hard time dealing with it. i've been really upset for a few days, and right from the beginning i told her i didn't want her to go. i know it sounds stupid cos i'm 18 but i can't bear 3 weeks without her. i've got an older brother and a younger sister and brother. they all seem to be okay but i'm not, i was crying my eyes out in bed until like 2 this morning. and now we've just got back i ran straight to the bathroom and cried my eyes out. everywhere i look i see "mom, mom, mom" and it's only the first night. i've still got 21 to go. i'm seriously breaking down already, how can i handle this? i have exams in a few weeks and honestly, revision is not a priority right now and it should be. please help me, anything to help me cope cos i'm really not in a good place right now.

ps. dad is not in the picture. we have family but not family we're close to. and also a few of my mom's friends will be here every now and then but it's not the same..
don't be horrible please, you don't know how it's made me feel..

? · Accepted Answer

Oh sweetheart. I'm extremely close to my mum too and its awful isn't it? Listen. Each time you feel like that send her a text or give her a call. You're feeling extremely vulnerable right now and I think you're just emotional with other things or exams. 

Thing is, your mum is actually going to be back very soon but the outcome of your exam will affect what choices you have in future. How cool will it be to be able to say to your mum when she's back that you revised loads and then get a fantastic grade?? 

I'm really not saying this to make you feel bad but 2 months ago I buried my auntie who we lost to cancer. Her only daughter now has no mum and she's only 17. But you have. So instead think positive and actually google some new hobbies and keep yourself constantly busy. That's what I did when I had depression a year back and I was very clingy with mum. I'm ok now after counselling but honestly just try keep busy with things you enjoy. Learn to cook new recipes!! Xx

Anonymous · Answer

Okay, I will show you the things that add up to make this situation:

Hormones+ No dad+ Sensitivity + Girl = This problem.
Sorry, there is really no solution. I mean yeah you can just try to keep in touch with your mom as much as possible. I know it is not the same as seeing her in person. But it is the most you can do. Also, just try to keep yourself busy and remind yourself, this IS normal. People DO do these kinds f things....Especially girls. Good Luck! I hope this helps you. :-3

guy · Answer

You could ask your mom to make a skype account so that you can talk with her and see her face.

? · Answer

Are you upset because you are responsible for your siblings?  Or are you upset because you'll miss your mom?  This seems so immature.  Don't you have a life?

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