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How do I stop feeling awkward around my husband because he looked up porn?

A few years ago, my husband, then boyfriend, told me he had had a really serious porn problem that lasted about 7 years, until he met me he said. We have been married for about a year, I'm 3 months pregnant and he told me he looked up porn because he was mad at me about an argument we got into and I'm so upset. How do I get over it?

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  • 8 years ago
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    Every woman reacts a slightly different way to their spouses looking at porn. Some women are cool with using it as a way to "spice up" sex life. My personal feelings on the matter are that I'm willing to do just about anything, and if a man needs to get his jollies by adding in another person (or two, or three), even in pictures or videos, it makes me feel like I'm not enough for him. Not to mention, most pregnant women do not feel particularly sexy, and when their husband looks at porn, that just seems to validate those feelings. It could be that you just have a broken trust now, because he used such a lame excuse of getting into an argument with you to go back into doing something he knew would upset you.

    Depending on what your reaction is specifically, you need to discuss with him what it is that's got you so upset. I don't personally feel like there's anything a healthy relationship can gain with porn. You need to talk with him and be clear about exactly what it is that has upset you about it, and then just know that it'll be a while before that trust comes back completely again. For his part, he can start reacting to what you tell him. If the fact that he looks at porn makes you feel like he thinks you're unattractive, he needs to make a point to show you that's not the case. If it's that you feel like he needs another person (or more) to get turned on, he can start showing you that you are more than enough to get the job done.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    You could start by understanding that pretty much every guy on the planet looks at porn, whether they admit it or not. Get over yourself. Find something worthwhile to fight about or don't fight.

  • 8 years ago

    Maybe you could try watching it with him as a way to spice up your sex life. But if he has a problem with it then that may not be a good idea. Just assure that it is not becoming a problem again. But don't get too upset over it.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    I totally agree with crazy chick

    Source(s): Porns a deal breaker for me
  • 8 years ago

    i would think he was probably a teen then it almost would not be considered a problem just normal, and there is nothing wrong with porn, watch some yourself.

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