Tough situation for my boyfriend and I?

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My boyfriend is LDS, and I am not, we have been dating for about 3 months and have actually known each other for a couple years. We are both currently juniors, and are not the type to jump around from relationships and are quiet mature. I care for him ALOT and have very strong feelings. He is my best friend and makes me so happy, I'm one of the only people that understands him. I know you wont take this seriously since you think we are young, but today we were talking about marriage rules in his religion and he said that his parents wanted him to seriously date a LDS person after his mission, and that he wanted to marry in the temple and such. But he did said felt like he would be limiting himself if he dated Mormons only , and he was willing to date outside. Maybe I'm just over reacting but it hurts so much to know, if we ever have a successful relationship that we will never be together in the end. I feel like I'm setting my self  for heart break and don't want to do that to myself at a young age in my life. He noticed my change in mood afte the said this, but I was said I was fine. I have never felt like this before about anyone. The reason I feel like this is real is because we can talk for hours and be happy, without the physical affection ( catch my drift) is it normal that I'm scared to stay with him knowing we won't end up together, I don't want to fall in love and we have to go our separate ways. I've had a bad past with parent divorces and siblings, so this may be a contributing factor. Also to add maybe in the future I would be willing to join the church, I like the clean life style and want to learn more, but I don't want to scare him away by getting too serious. For some reason this just hurts me. It hurts to know that he doesn't really consider our relationship serious. I just don't know what to do. I do want to go into medicine maybe that won't fit into his for the future. Thanks.

Tiffany · Accepted Answer

In compleat honesty no one can tell you how serious a relation ship is but you and the other person.

You're happy right now? He makes you happy? Be with him? 

When he chooses is when you have to deal about it. But think about the person he is. Would he not want to be with you? Are you in the kind of relationship that he would do that if so then think about who you're really with.

If anything just ask him what his choice is now. Tell him if he loves you he would save you from the heartache now. And if he is Mormon he'd love you no matter what and be with you.

And become a Mormon from knowledge not love.

debbra · Answer

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Zwise · Answer

Yes, these are indeed tough times for each of you.   You are on the right track by treading carefully as it is a great injustice to the both of you if you cannot be united in all things, especially your faith.  It would be difficult for your children as well.  I see this happening to too many, too often.   If their love endures, usually the non member spouse converts or the member goes inactive.  But too often life is too hard not being with a spiritual equal and they go their separate ways as the love & attraction fade.

I would suggest you do have a serious talk about this and that you do all you can to become fully informed on the benefits & life style of the LDS faith, the purpose of their temples and all.  If you are religious, have him investigate your beliefs as well and talk about them with open minds together.  Try to resolve this in the next few months as you both clarify your ideals, expectations and goals of life.

As you clarify your purpose the path and choices before you should become more clear to the both you.  Then you can either depart as respectful friends or come together in total unity, both the better for the experience.  Know that love & spirit are the very essence of life and that both must be united in the same cause & purpose for a fullness of joy to take place.  Look for the joy & follow your heart.

C. Atkinson (aka gusgus) · Answer

Oh unrequited love.

Or maybe he does have feelings for you too.

Have you asked yourself what it is that has helped him become such a good person? Maybe you could consider applying the same successful principles to your life as well?

Don't condition your happiness on how you want things to turn out, for they rarely do. Strive to find happiness in all aspects of life and you will never be disappointed and will always be ready to pursue a better path!

Ammon · Answer

You should go to LDS social activities for young people your same aproximate age.  Having good clean fun is a good thing to do and being friends is a good thing to be.

http://vimeo.com/6190108

http://vimeo.com/5842279

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGkqCs1Ltt8&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ILJRabrsJAw

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQ3KD-90XnQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pq7f3XW7DAI&feature=related

http://Mormon.org Chat.


God bless.

We Beg For Help · Answer

let him make a desition in time, you relax and carry on normal and be open to meet others and new oportunities.

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