Why doesn't marriage work anymore ?

Because people getting married now tend to think that if it doesn't work out, they can always get divorced, rather than thinking that divorce is not an option. We glorify divorce and have accepted it to be something normal that people just go through nowadays. It's like it went from birth, marriage, children, death to birth, marriage, children, divorce, second marriage, more kids, divorce, death as the stages in life and it's sad.

No one takes it seriously any more because they don't want to take the time to make the effort.

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Marriage does work, just not for everyone. The divorce rates have been decreasing since the 80's. As well, the divorce rates are not 50% like most people believe. A lot of people get married for the wrong reasons, but there are still people of couples that make it.

People's choice

Marriage is working fine for many people.

However, the divorce rate has been increasing...i think due to the decrease in morality.

When you are immoral, you want instant gratification, want to spend more than you make, don't want to share finances, don't want to sacrifice and plan for wealth, more likely to cheat, etc.

And by morality, I don't mean religion; although religion is one path to developing a mature, moral mindset.

Marriage requires quite a bit of work and sacrifice. One of the best things my wife and I did for our marriage was follow Dave Ramsey's financial peace plan...it forced us to put our finances together, make a plan, and hold each other accountable in a constructive way...which meant a whole lot more of the right kind of communication. As our debt decreased, our trust and respect in each other sored.

I will add that divorce is sometimes a very good thing. My parents divorced. Initially, it hurt me because I expected all marriages to work, but a few decades later, I see that the divorce was a very good thing for both parents.

Its all because of men and women have become intolerant of the mildest shortcomings in each other. They think that they will find someone better. Its future trap. Divorce and play the game again and find someone better. Its only at 40 or 45 yrs of age that they realize what fools they have been. Its like they want readymade food but neither men or women want to cook. Food is bad? Lets order something else! Cooking at home is an analogy here. Marriage requires a lot of give-take, understanding and complete lack of ego. No power plays- emotional or physical. A surrender to the sacred bond, not to each other. The current attitude is 'Anything for me'. It should be 'Anything for our marriage'.

Marriage can work, but society has become a very instant fulfillment kind of thing. A real marriage takes work and commitment. That is what has become lacking these days. You have to want to love someone, warts and all. "Changing" someone is always a bad idea. If you cannot love someone for who they are right now, then do not marry them. People are not going to change who they fundamentally are.

Now a days people don't get married for love. They get married for all the wrong reasons. The biggest problem is money. People are so greedy these days. And then when one little thing goes wrong in the marriage they give up and move on. Its really sad but its true. People are just not in it for the love anymore.

Because the motto used to be if its broke fix it and now its changed to if its broke just get a new one!

People nowadays jump to divorce too quickly and do not take vows of marriage seriously. Look to the media and whats shown now versus then. Values have gone down the drain. Sad really.

Laziness and Selfishness

Liberal Media and Films

Erosion of Virtue

Romantic Love valued over Unconditional Love

people don't want to invest time and energy, marriage is about giving yourself to your partner (both ways), being honest and open. These are actually very big things to do and to leave yourself vulnerable to the other person. If two people can (they will go through bad times and good) they will they weather any storm, and people today only look for the instant gratification and forget about working through problems.