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Ema asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 8 years ago

Untrustworthy friends?

My friends are, I don't know, being rude and hurtful. I can't put it into words that are clear. An instance, for example, is when we are hanging out at lunch. They break off into conversations about being together and everything even after high school and college. When I ask if I could join along, they say no or tell me that they will ditch me. I only wish they were kidding. One of my friends doesn't really like me and I know it, she just says she does because she doesn't want to appear mean, yet I know she has told one of my friends that I was a b****, I think that was the word used. I get talked about behind my back not by strangers, but my actual friends. I am sad and I feel angry with them and I want to leave them, but I do know they show their good side a lot, too. I am so confused. Also, I don't like being alone and they're the only people I am with at lunch and only one of my friends has been true to the end.

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  • 8 years ago
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    They aren't friends.

    I deal with people like that all the time.

    To hang out with my best friend, I have to hang out with her friends. They hate me and tease me but I just hide behind my best friend.

    I think it's time for you to get new friends, honestly, they aren't your friends if they are doing this.

    Befriend the unpopular girl/boy at school, who knows, you could discover so much about them, you two could even have a lot in common.

    Have fun :)

    Source(s): Brain
  • 8 years ago

    Don't worry. I know exactly how you feel. I know this may sound cliche, but try hanging out with someone else! If there's no one in your group that you like or like you, then find a new friend. And also, you could strengthen the relationship between that one good friend you have by thanking her or hanging out with her more. And this may come out a bit harsh, but watch what you say and do, also. How do they respond to your words or actions? Is there any way you could be more polite or more enjoyable?

    If you truly can't stand them, then confront them and ask what is going on. However, do not get angry and lose control in front of them or try to get back by insulting them. It will only make it worse, because most likely they have no idea what's going on, because most likely they think that you can tolerate their offensive actions- which isn't good.

    Good luck!

    Source(s): Experience.
  • ?
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    8 years ago

    These are FAKE friends really...I'm going through the same situation as you and it really burdens me

    But I decided to break it off for they can no longer control me or make me feel inferior

    Real friends don't talk behind your back nor make you feel bad

    Their just two face people that just want to use you if something comes up

    You got to move on, or else you'll just be their puppet toy based on anything you do they will talk behind your back

    Karma will have it's time...but till then it's really best to move on

    Best to you! :)

    Source(s): ~Hugs~
  • 4 years ago

    Oh, i be attentive to so properly the way you experience. it is so disappointing once you tell somebody something which you be attentive to they be attentive to you may % to be saved between the two one in each of you. After a time or 2 of looking out that she went precise to somebody else and instructed them what you instructed her, you will locate that wisdom is means. In different words, do not tell her property you % to maintain inner maximum. What could be humorous is that in case you made up something that wasn't real and enable her unfold it around. then you definitely ought to seize her in her very own activity. I, in my view, am not stable at this way of "useful" humorous tale. it would probable backfire on me. i be attentive to this variety of character you're speaking approximately with the 2d person besides. that is totally complicated, exceedingly once you may have discovered someone you may relate to and try to speak with them and he or she barges in and tries to "take over" together with her selfish character. If those all and sundry isn't a stable in good shape for you, it rather is rather helpful to objective and touch others outdoors of faculty. Over the e-mail, case in point. Get the e-mail address or telephone numbers of people you have an activity in and make contact with them or touch them at domicile. Use MSN Chat to speak with them so which you do not tie the kin telephone up. you basically might desire to locate a pal so as which you would be able to progressively enable go of those human beings. If none of that works, according to risk you would be happier with no pal precise now. i be attentive to ways considerable it rather is, regardless of the incontrovertible fact that, to have some human beings to hang with at school. while my daughter might wade with the aid of classes without acquaintances she might tell me that she "did not experience secure". i'm constructive you may relate to this. properly, i desire something i've got reported has helped you in some small way. Take care and hang in there.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    This made me almost cry, it's kind of sad. If they are ***holes then they are not your friends. Yes it might be really hard to find new ones, but maybe find another friend

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