relationship problems because of health issues need advice?

You have a right to be mad. No, you are not selfish but he is. You have been with that man for 13 years and he does that to you. That is so unfair. I really hate to say this but you need to evaluate your relationship with your fiancé. It's hard to believe that he loves you. I would leave him and I would get public assistance. You are better off without him. You lost your job so you could be with him and then he turns around and refuses to help you. Only a heartless person can do that. What a loser.

You are not being selfish. You did a lot for your fiance when he needed it and now it's you who needs the help.

You're trying to think practically and stacking up your health issues but an instant marriage is not an option is it - so it is futile even thinking about his wonderful health cover but you can't access it without being married.

Worrying about your health will compound your problems and make you feel worse.

I'm the wrong person to answer this really since I am at the other end of the spectrum to you, I can count on one hand the number of times over the past 5 years that I have actually swallowed a pill of any type and it was Ibuprofen actually, 200mg. when I was in a lot of pain. I try to treat anything I can with natural remedies and I'd advise you to do the same if possible.

You sound like you need a little tonic and you're a bit down so try St.John's Wort and with blood pressure you cannot top beetroot! You're online so you can research 'super foods' and natural cures. Just doing something will make you feel better and ease your worries.

Your fiance does not know what to do or what to say when you get on the subject of your health and you could be damaging your relationship putting him in this position since men generally like to solve problems for their woman and be a hero so be careful what you say to him. He is not being as generous in spirit to you as you were to him when he needed your care and attention though I'm hearing that loud and clear. But the thing is YOU need more money so you can afford better health care. More money - now how are you going to get it? Focus on this hurdle because this is the main problem. The marriage having to be put back was a natural step and you are still together and intending to marry. Put some effort into sweetening up your relationship right now as it sounds as if it has gone a little sour between you. Don't let health concerns ruin what you have.

I do feel sorry for you, it can't be easy in your position and not working and with ailments. Think positive thoughts and imagine better times and they will materialize for you I hope. Good luck.

WOW I would give him a ultimatum, You said you have been together 13 years and that is long enough to take care of someone and them to take you for granted. He probably thinks that you need him just as much as he needs you. My advice is for you to just pack up and leave him because it doesn't seem like he is interested in your health problems or marrying you. You never said how old you were but you can make it on your own and get your own insurance you do need to think about yourself now because diabetes and high blood pressure is nothing to deal with. My husband has type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure and he kept putting off going to a doctor until he started swelling up then he went and they had to do open heart surgery or he would of not lasted until the end of the year. So please take care of yourself and don't let it get any worse. GOOD LUCK

You're not wrong or selfish. I know what you're going thru. Mine did the same thing. He throws fits all the time. Thank God I didn't have his baby or I would have paid for all that when his job had free coveage. I almost died a year ago when I had a bad reaction to a fire any sting because he denied me medical care. I had to beg for his epi pen.. All I can say is from my experience is it doesn't get better no matter what either you or I do. These guys won't marry us. They just want a maid or a bed partner.. And both you and I deserve better than these circus clowns who never grew up. They aren't worth our tears. Our brains know this but our hearts don't. I am trying to open my heart to a man who will be good to me and give 50 50 in a real relationship and stop playing house. Try sone Vanadyl for your blood sugar as well as cinnamon capsules and chromium piconate. Go for walks. Pray. Visit supportive friends for your blood pressure. And find a

guy who will treat you like you deserve. Life is too short to be this unhappy. That's what I keep telling myself. I hope we both can find our "Mr

Rights".

Go to the Dr and do what you have to do. Just because you had a bad experience with one Dr, it does not mean they are all bad. Tell your man you need to see a Dr and get yourself taken care of. Neither of the 2 problems you have can be screwed with. They are killers. It is not a case of what can you do. There is only one thing you can do, and if your man does not realize doctors are cheaper than a hospital stay or a funeral, then you need to dump him and go on public assistance. At least then you will have medical help

if my man dont care about me, all, even health, then theres a problem!! for better or for worse, in sickness and in health.......these vows are cherished, and he should grow up, oh wait, ya arent married......then why are you in this category??