Do you think my mom's being unfair?

You don't say how old you are but since you're are going to University next year I'm guessing you're approaching 18. All parents are different but it does sound to me like she's being too restrictive not letting you go out and things. Obviously the best thing for you to do is talk to her about the situation like an adult and tell her how she's making you feel. The other option is actually go out and get yourself a job because I'm sure you will find that with this will come a new level of independence. You can always move out to student accommodation when you go to Uni if this doesn't work, September is not that far away - the time will fly between now and then!

No, Mom is not being unfair, but she may have waited too long.

You are old enough to be in the "big, wide world." I was thrown there too young; by 7, I was riding my bike miles away; by 10 I was scheduling and attending my own doctor appts. (against doctor's suggestions to parents - parents didn't listen). I was riding buses alone at 11, using university libraries by the time I was 14, etc.

I grew up being extremely independent, but in a learning atmosphere. I didn't hit the streets and run wild, I just learned to do things on my own. I decided I wanted to visit California when I was 16. I had some money saved. My parents wrote down a list of relatives I had never met, informed me to contact them and ask if I could stay with them, told me to arrange the flight(s) and everything else, and I week (or 10 days) later, they were dropping me at the airport.

If you are still unaware of the world around you, your Mother is right; you're not ready for a job yet. Do you have a consistent schedule? Do you go to sleep and wake up at appropriate times of the day and night? Do you know how to handle money? Are you responsible? Are you reliable? Do you take matters seriously when necessary? Are you drinking or drugging? At all, or to excess? Etc.

I didn't force my children to be as independent as I was forced to be, but I encouraged them to do things on their own as early as reasonably possible. The first thing I drew the line on was calling them in for school. "If you really can't (or don't want to go), call yourself in." Amazing how quickly they end up in class.

My mum's the same. Just do what she says until you go to university. Then live in a dorm or other student accommodations, not at home. It's miserable, but you can't argue. It's totally futile. If she realises you're right, she'll tell you to shut up. So yeah.

Talk to her as little as possible. It kind of works. She'll think you're handling a lot by yourself.

Be patient. It's annoying, I know, I have to wait 3 years.

yeah kind of not letting u to move freely as u r willing too..in my view point i think freedom is about ur own choice,,when u know where u want to go and wats right for u..u have choices in life and u always will have..its in ur hand what u want to do with it..can understand ur feelings how one can feel when u r jobless...like its d worst thing in this entire world..seriously hate being jobless and left with nothing to do.......anyway dats how d life is..sometimes bad clouds while sometime good clouds....i dont think at this point of ur life u will be able to be independent.being independent means when u got a good job that u can afford all ur expenses on ur own..everything from rent to bills to food..

nothing wrong in having expectations from u by ur mother.........u sound real insane to me lol...ur mum is telling u to be independent without letting u try first..does that make any sense..???? seriously people these days cant say...think trying for jobs might help u bit..as u wont have to be dependent on ur parents to ask wat u need......and obviously ur mum wont get a topic to nag with u about being independent loool

What is it that you want to do when you go out? You are too young to go to the pub . I expect things like cinema and bowling etc are fine, but hanging around doing nothing isn't. She is only concerned for your welfare. Once you get to university, you will be 18 and able to do what you want.

I'm sorry but your 18 and your Mum is TELLING you to get on the bus yourself? That's not normal, your Mum has had a problem of letting her big girly wirly go and it's affected your life

Well, I'm not gonna say "yeah, UR mom is too uptight girl!", but yeah, i guess you both just aren't getting along with something so maybe she's mad at you....