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Am I a lesbian? Can't stop obsessively worrying!?

I am 15 years old, I had a massive crush on a boy my whole life and I've always liked boys physically, emotionally and sexually. The idea of kissing a boy gives me these butterflies and I also get big celebrity crushes. I however, have a horrible tendency to obsess over things really badly to the pint where I can get a bit depressed and really confuse myself- I am not sure yet if its OCD. But one day the thought occurred to me.. Am I Lesbian? And it really scared me. I have has no attraction sexually or emotionally to girls ever before this- naturally I noticed when people are pretty but who doesn't?! Anyway now I gradually started obsessing 24/7 over this and forcing myself to look at girls boobs and bums which made me uncomfortable. The downside is I sometimes get this groinal response I don't know if it means anything as I literally anticipate it and almost force it just by worrying so much that I will get a response. The response is just like a throb in my clitoris, it doesn't feel good or anything but I am wondering does this make me lesbian? The fact that I sometimes get a little throb in my clitoris by looking at same sex people- or is it just the anxiety as I get so nervous that I will get a response. I might add I do not like the idea of kissing, touching or having a relationship with another girl. I get a tingly excited feeling in my tummy and clitoris area when looking at guys I like. Please please reply.

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  • 8 years ago
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    Dear, you don't suddenly become a lesbian, I didn't, I was born one and I will die one, it works that ways for gays, bi's and straights too.

    I've never found men sexually attractive and I've never had sex with a man and never will.

    You're 15 you're at the age where you worry if you're 'normal' or if your **** are too big or too small or if you're fat or thin or if everyone but you is having sex, you'll grow out of it or you'll become obsessed with plastic surgery.

    I'm attracted to girls, that's a fact but sometimes I will look at a girls bum or boobs or wherever, else in a non sexual way because maybe some days I want what that girl has (I like being a 36B but sometimes C's and D's might look good on me).

    You are not going to one day wake up and stop fancying guys and start wanting to be with a woman, it doesn't work that way, it never will.

    Take note of the fact you are forcing yourself to look at girls, for me if an attractive girl walks by it's not a matter of making myself look, my eyes will look at her bum if they want to and I won't stop them.

    I'll let you in on a little secret, woman have higher measures of arousal than men do, an attractive woman will be noticed by your brain in ways that an attractive man won't be noticed by a straight man. Women's brains get a tiny bit turned on by any sex, but not to the point you find them attractive, it's just your brain telling you 'that person is attractive' and when your brain tells you that it tells your sexual organs at the same time. It doesn't mean you want to have sex with a woman, it just means that you are a woman.

    Oh and by the way being a lesbian is not the worst thing in the world, trust me.

    I have OCD and it isn't based around obsessing over whether you like boys or girls, it's based on symmetry and order and control.

    What you have is a disorder called being 15 and worrying, unless there is something you're not telling us there is no reason to worry that you may be gay.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Are you stupid? Lesbians only like girls. If you want nothing to do with girls in a sexual way then you are straight. Seriously, it's common sense.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    8 years ago

    No your not. If you don't like it at all, or in no way feel the same way about girls as you do about boys then there is no way your a lesbian. Don't worry.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    No you are not a lesbian, you said it yourself.

    You are rather just putting things out of context and making it a bigger problem than it really is.

    Source(s): common sense, you said you Don't find women attractive on that level,Can't see them in that way, yet, you Do find some people of the opposing sex attractive,etc.
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  • 8 years ago

    no you sound like either you are lying to yourself and you like having to look and bums or you are sooo scared you are a lesbian/bisexual that you think you feel somethingwhen you arnt so then you do

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    probably not if you say that you don't want to kiss or touch another girl.

    answer mine?

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aqmqy...

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Try it. You might like it.

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