I need advice from a woman please reply?

I am sorry she's treating you this way. It may be very hurtful when someone can't be utterly sincere and maintains announcing come here/go away. I hope you'll be able to make a easy ruin from her before she messes along with your emotions any further. She says she isn't in love with you and desires a spoil. So let her go and do not look again. You have to get your life again. You also will have a excessive tolerance for unacceptable habits given that you place up with the bloodless remedy from her. I'm guessing she does not prefer to be by myself and is too insecure to make a easy spoil from you. I hope which you can be the healthy one - spoil it off and get busy with existence. You deserve a loving, variety girlfriend who appreciates you. It could be important to spend at the least 6 months alone so that you may grieve this relationship. Four years is a long time. At some point soon you'll be able to discontinue hurting and the sun will come out once more.

Of course you have a say in this relationship. You said you've talked to her, but nothing has changed. Maybe she was raised to believe that the man always makes the first move. Things taught in childhood are hard to break. This might be hard for her to relearn, but if you're patient with her, and show her what you like, she'll start making moves on you.

Does she reciprocate when you hug, kiss, etc...her? Or do you feel she's holding back? If she reciprocates, then maybe she's just shy and believes the guy always makes the first move. If she feels distant when you do, then maybe she's not that into the relationship (sorry!!). But best thing is to talk it out, always.

Since your tests aren't working, talk to her directly. She may be self conscious and scared of rejection and that's why she waits for you to make the first move. Or she is just used to it.

The only way to make her aware of how much it hurts you is to tell her!

Ask her to initiate. Yes, that is what you do in a relationship - communicate your needs.