I'm 34 and with a man who is 65. I'm now in love with his son. help?

Well frankly, I really don't see any chance of you getting together with the son. That would be weird and awkward for everyone. You could stay in the relationship and see how it goes, if you will get over the fact that the man you are with, is not the man you love. You might even come to a level with the son where you can talk normally again.

However, that hope of becoming friends, and maybe more with the son will probably not vanish, if he's right in front of your nose.

So, either you completely give up on the son forever and stay with the father, even though it seems like you don't really love him, or, the choice that seems right to me, you break up with the father and move on with your life, because that whole situation is just weird, and will be really hurtful for all participants if it goes on and someone might find out. It is not only about you, it could also affect the fathers relationship to his son, which would be very unfair.

So please, even if it might hurt the father at that moment, move on. He's only 65, he will find someone else to be truly happy. But the longer you wait, the harder it gets for everyone.

And forget about a romantic relationship with the son. You were with his father, it won't happen.

It's time to jump ship.

If the father is not right for you, then break it off. But, DO NOT start a relationship with the son. It's just not right on any level. All it will do is disrupt the family balance. There are plenty of men in the world. Find one that is not related to anyone in this family.

You can rekindle your friendhip with the son 10 years in the future or something. But, stay away from him for now. If you truly care about him and his feelings, you will care enough to let this one go.

Hello! Well first,stop berating yourself. You made a move at a vulnerable time that turned out to be a mistake. We have all done that. That being said,you really need to break away from the older gentleman. Its simply not fair for you to remain on a relationship with him,knowing your feelings don't equal his. Please do that as soon as possible. As for the son..it depends on a lot of things. Are you certain you aren't romanticizing him? If you believe your feelings are genuine,talk with him. Explain your state of mind when you got with his father and how time has given you clarity. Then leave it to him. He will think about it and tell you his feelings. But above all,try to find contentment in yourself as well. It will enhance any future relationships and help your state of mind at the samt time. Good luck!

Uh... What are you thinking? heavily? i discover this disgusting easily, yet once you rather think of "Love is love" then purely decide for it. purely remember, once you're walking around with him, human beings will think of "BUM! At like 30 she's residing along with her father! haha!" And once you clarify, they are going to in all danger throw up. purely think of Ben, at age 20 marries a woman at age 40. the guy you adore is two cases older than you, and to boot, once you're like 40, your "hub" could have died 5 years in the past. i might HATE it extra effective than something to be born to a dad it rather is sixty 5, and a mom it rather is 34. How embarrassing! On shadow a pupil day, how are you gonna clarify grandpa over right that's definitely your dad. hit upon a youthful guy heavily.

It sounds as if you solved the answer yourself. The best advice I have for you is to listen to your mind soul and most importantly, heart. You should just tell them how you truely feel. If they both truely love you, they will understand and help change things to best suit your heart's desire. I'm sorry but either way you slice it, 65 is way to old in my opinion. Either if you truely felt he lived for you, hence he would have died for you, ie. really, truely cared for you. His son should have been your first and prime most choice. Go after him, explain to him that " I LOVE YOU" and that he was right and you were wrong to have gone into such a mess. Ask him to help you because you need his help, or rather his love. Tell him you don't want to loose him.

Good luck! And may Aphrodite guide you. ~3

What do you mean that you've tried to break away from the father but he won't let you go? Does he put a gun to your head? If you don't love this man, tell him good bye. It isn't fair to him to let him think you really care, when you don't.

you don't love the father - the son doesn't love you - this is not a 3-way - it's a no way.

No, you meed to abandon the whole situation and start over.

You can't unring the bell, and what you're doing is wrong all the way around.

I would break up with him and get with the son if you love the son. only if you really love the son, though, not just think you do

Tell him you fell in love with somebody he knows very well... .