A question about people who are proud that they've been the ones to finish every romantic relationship?

they are actually very insecure people. deep inside they believe they don't deserve love and no one can ever stay with them for long so before the other person hurts them, they hurt the other person. its very stupid though and its like you never take a chance on a great thing like love out of fear of losing. and you lose out anyway coz you spend the best years just being afraid and then when ur too old, you have no one left for you to take a chance with. and also such people make every thing into a competition. they thing love is also a competition coz everything revolves around their ego for them. they'd rather be alone than let go of their egos and fall in love. remember, falling in love means literally FALLING. without fears, inhibitions or ego trips

Finishing a relationship, is nothing to be proud of.. it shows that the relationship didn't work out.. I was the one finishing my last relationship and I still feel bad about it. We talked things over and over again.. he understood, but I know he's mad at me..

Breaking up for me, is a very serious step.. and I'd only do it if I was sure it wouldn't work out.. it's not a competition, maybe for teenagers.. but when you're an adult, it's nothing to brag about.. it's a failure.. you thought that that person was the one for you, but over time.. all those dreams and hopes, come tumbling down.. one by one.. and you just see no other option than to end things.. I still feel bad about it. It's nothing to be proud of, at all.

I think that's a silly thing to be proud of. It's like bragging that you quit every job you had before they fired you. I would also be very suspicious about someone who says that. If they've had many relationships and say they've ended them all, then they're either delusional or have commitment issues.

Finishing meaning being the "dumper?"

I dumped a lot of people, sure, but when I got dumped: Worst. Pain. Ever. It sucks being on both ends, but I think that if someone is just the dumper and have never been on the other side, they're cowards who flee before something goes wrong, so they feel like they need to get the upper hand.

Well for me it is different. I married an abusive man and felt stupid for doing so because all the red flags were there. So for me I am proud that I have ended all my relationships, but only because I feel proud that I was strong enough to stand up for what *I* wanted and not stay with a man just to have a man kwim?

It's an ego thing! They are so insecure in themselves that they derive their confidence from making sure that they are not the one to look like the desperate one in the relationship.. It's very immature and someone like that has a lot of issues they need resolved!