Boyfriend's daughter's mom?

The court order of visitation is the document which the parents of the child go by, and can not alter without going thru the courts. If this is the case, then if the mother of the child drops her kid off at her parents house or a friend in order to have her hair or nails done then the father of the child could also throw a fit.

As for imprisonment or kidnapping of the child, you were asked to 'babysit' for the parent which has custody that weekend, period. It is not the mother's time, nor can she demand the child back.

If they never went thru the courts to outline visitation, then it is about time since eventually one of them will have a girlfriend and maybe a future spouse in the picture.

Well, ordinarily I would say "stay out of it." Then I read the second part of your question.

Here's what I would do: call the ex/mother and arrange to meet her for coffee or a drink. Tell her the situation and ask her if you two can sit down and discuss it. Then do it. The best way to prevent this from getting all out of hand is to face it with her. Let her get to know you on a more personal level and see what kind of person you are.

Don't mention what the child says, but tell the mom that she always seems to enjoy being with you when the guy is working, and it's just easier all around for her to stay and see her dad after he's done working.

The important thing is to allow *her* to make the decision. Don't try to force tour opinion on her too much, but lay it all out and let her some to the same conclusion. Let her see the environment in your place, if necessary to make her more comfortable. And make sure you help her to understand that you're not attempting to replace her in ANY way.

I think this would be the best way to handle it for everyone involved.

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Thats a difficult one. I have to commend you on handling it so well and being understanding of both sides. Maybe you should try talking to the mother. Show her that you're a good person. Tell her that your boyfriend really loves spending time with his daughter and he's a good man who works hard. Let her know that you understand that she doesn't know you so she's right in maybe not wanting her daughter left with you, but that you would like to get to know her so that maybe in the future she can feel comfortable with you watching their child. Explain that you are in no way, shape, or form trying to step on her toes. You just want your boyfriend to be able to spend as much time as possible with his daughter. If she's understanding, then great. If not, then there's nothing you can do from there.

just make the baby mother understand that her baby is safe with you and she don't have nothing to worry about,and tell her that you love her just as much as she do. and tell her she can come by and check on if that will make her feel better. put yourself in her shoes not to say that you are not a good person,but you never know theses days all you see on the news. but as for me personally I would like to know what kinda woman is watching my baby when he's go to work. because you never know with all the things that's been happen to kids that's been left home with ex husband girlfriends or wife. or ex wives boyfriends or new husband.

The mother has a much much much more of a say, rights, and responsibilities than you should. Sorry to be blunt, but your opinion really doesn't and shouldn't matter in this situation.

I am not sure what the legal way is, but I kind of agree with her. It is supposed to be the kid's time with the dad, if he is not with the dad, I would want my child to be with me, too.

The mother has that right. Why? Because YOU are not married to your boyfriend and until you are, you have no say in the matter. Its like you are not there and your bf would need to go to work and have to take his child back.

If he is working he's not with the child so does it really matter if the child spends time with her mother instead? Then he can pick her up after work...seriously - it's not brain surgery!

Even tho it may be expensive, your best bet would be to have him ask the attorney who handled his divorce. Perhaps have a clause written to cover things like this. Perhaps if "mom" got to know you she may approve of your "babysitting" when necessary.