Drink spiked and i'm now pregnant, what do I do?

You are not going to like the outcome of this.

In a judicial committee you are guilty until proven innocent.

They will set an aggressive pattern of questioning to determine your "guilt". The questions are designed to be humiliating and shaming.

The questions will be patterned around painting you as a drug using, sex-crazed liar. They will ask you about if you have had alchohol, have you drank until you were tipsy, have you ever drank until you were drunk, have you ever blacked out.

They will ask about your friend and the party, was it a Witness party, is your friend a Witness?

They will ask about if you have ever tried any drugs. They will ask about boyfriends.

They will ask in depth about masturbation and watching pornographic material, all leading to the predone conclusion that you went out, drank, did drugs and slept around. You got pregnant and are now lying about rape to cover it up.

It is a disgusting practice.

In the end, if cry and answer all their demeaning questions without delay, they will likely conclude you were raped and then publicly reprove you. Your name will be read to the congregation as a sinner that has repented and the next "local needs" talk will be about the dangers of bad association.

Afterward, the elders will tell their wives, who are usually the biggest gossips in the congregation and soon everyone will know why you were raped.

There are many other factors that may come into play in your experience here. So far, most of the Witnesses that post here feel you are lying (as your question was referenced in another area)

Outside of the Witness advice, find a support group. You have been violated and that has lasting emotional scars. There are many on the web that you can talk to other women that have been through what you have and put you on the path to recovery without judgement.

You have my sympathy for the ordeal you went through. I can offer little help about healing from the rape, but if you need any support for how to deal with the Witnesses I have vast experience dealing with them.

My email is in my profile.

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You start doing things the best way possible from here on end

Go to your parents, police, and the Elders, I'm sure they know a women who they feel qualified who can help you as well along the way, ask if not offered. You might get sympathy here and you might also get some bad advise. But what you need if you want a better tomorrow is doing things in the best way now.

I'm sorry, This isn't it. So from here do what you should.

Do the right thing. I'm not going to get in to one's faith like some did here to nip. Some use every opportunity they can to make others look bad in all ways possible. It's a pathetic way to be and not helping theirs. That's how some behave here though. One needs to be wise of such tricks.

I do know that God gave us Shepherds to help us. Use his plan first. It's a less complicated way to live. When you break the rules and ignore God's ways you invite more serious complications into your life. If that doesn't work which I doubt will happen than move on to another good way.

Start communicating clearly with those you need too. Don’t feel everyone has to know your business neither. I understand your hurt and I don't mean for you to hide it from anyone what happen but on the same hand be wise and selective. Most problems, big and small, within a family, friendship, or business relationship, start with bad communication. And to much to others who aren't going to help you like you may think. And that goes for even people in your own group, not everyone is qualified as they think to help others especially if they have issues of their own to deal with and haven't well.

Action and change are often resisted when they’re needed most. Get a hold of yourself and remember God wants us to have discipline. Discipline is choosing what you really need over what you want right now. Putting something off makes it instantly harder and scarier. What we don’t start today won’t be finished by tomorrow.

And when you spend time worrying, you’re simply using your imagination to create things you don’t want. It’s usually only as good or bad as you think it is.

Start spending less time gossiping here about problems and more time helping yourself solve them. To many do that. It's a net trap.

Stop trying to be everything to everyone. Helping or pleasing everyone is impossible. And your not going to be able too. Help yourself first in the right way. Using the best sources available to you- Parents, Police, Elders

Talk to others after you use these

No, you don't need to prove anything but you do need help. Try doing it the right way it works out usually for the best.

Start accepting responsibility for everything in your life. Either you own your problems, or they will own you. Your choice.

Stop reacting without a good plan. The sooner you will stop making the same unnecessary mistakes, the sooner new doors of opportunity will open in your life.

Good luck, I hope you do what you should now. If true, your in an adult situation, you need to behave like one and make the best choices possible. Your choice.

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Die Rise or what ever your name is, I don't really care! This poor girl is going through enough without an idiot like you thinking that they can make fun. Sexual assault in any way, shape or form is serious so please tell me why is that funny to you? Tbh, I think this girl is really brave for opening up about what happened to her as its not an easy subject for a person to talk about to anybody especially if she feels she is going to judged instead of being supported by those who she should be able to go to e.g. Kingdom Hall and so forth. Have you told your family sweetheart? We all have our opinions about JW's and I must say they are not all bad. I wish you all the best and take care. X

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First things first, the Elders have no way of knowing if you have an abortion or not. So really it is your personal choice.

I can't advise you on this, there really are too many factors involved here. So you have to decide this for yourself - keeping a child from a rape will be very difficult. But having an abortion is also very difficult. I recommend thinking about it a lot and only telling others that you TRUST. I would not trust any Jehovah's Witnesses - they are gossipers and all around liars.

Ultimately the decision is yours and no advice on this forum can change that. I wish you the best!!!

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There is a blooming community of JWs on the R&S board. Take your question over there.

How lame that you would be dealing with drugging, rape and pregnancy and now you're also in trouble with the church. Totally not what Jesus did when he walked in on some jerks stoning an adulterer. Not that I think you did anything wrong, it's just the closest Bible story I can recall.

Talk to more people from the party. Someone knows what happened and will talk.

This is an extremely delicate situation and you need to treat it as such.

You said you have informed the police and by having your stomach pumped I'm going to assume that it removed whatever you had previously ingested. You have implied that you cannot remember anything that happened so it's safe to assume that someone really did spike your drink with some date rape drug.

So firstly, you have no memory of the incident and secondly, due to the drug that you took unknowingly, you did not act in a way you normally would have. Having already reported the matter to the police I strongly suggest that you inform your parents of what took place, if you have not done so already. Secondly, once you are not baptized you do not need to fear anyone shunning you. Thirdly, inform the elders that an incident occurred where you raped while under the influence of some date rape drug. You do not remember anything that occurred that night and you have already lodged a report to the police.

This baby is your baby - do not under any circumstances consider abortion. If you do not want to keep your baby you can give it up for adoption. If you are studying with someone you may find it helpful to tell her what happened. But that is your choice.

Ultimately - the next few months will be trying for you. Lean upon Jehovah. Pray to him and supplicate to him. You may find that no one is sympathetic to your situation but Jehovah understands what you are going through and he will never forsake you. Even if there is no one by your side; always remember that Jehovah is always there for you.