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James asked in Social SciencePsychology · 8 years ago

Ive Lost Confidence and gained anxiety, why?

So basically, im 18 and im a student, maybe about a year and a half ago i was all full of confidence didnt care what people said about me, i was a happy and hyper person, but then last year (around april 2012) i just all of a sudden lost confidence and gained anxiety but what i dont get is im a happy person never feel down except for monday mornings ofcourse. i will try not sound cocky or anything but i am slim kinda built, brown hair and your average joe. so for example when im in college/school i would be sitting randomly in class or in the canteen and just all of a sudden i would start getting flustered and all unsettled and go very warm and i would be able to feel my blood pumping it can get that bad it almost goes as a blur, it then got worse where i wouldnt go out as much, i would eat out, socialize as much, would refuse to go get my bus as i was pretty much scared and i dont know why! this was a shock for me as i am VERY chatty and would say hello to everyone.. and then it just changed where i was almost scared of big crowds and people.. it was as if i was embarrased and shy of myself which i am not. summer came it got better and then i only got maybe as what i referres to them as "anxiety attack" i dont know.. but only once a week which was so releaving better than maybe twice a day! forgot to add i would also get red to the face due to high blood temperature due to the whole anxiety problems and worry over nothing

september came i got back into college and was grand the anxiety got better, i now am actually more confident for aome reason its as if it just came back now but.. i am still kinda scared to go out and eat, i feel as if everyone ia looking at me.. and i just cannot walk through a shop without getting flustered and all hot i cant even sit inside anywhere even if its raining, saying that i could speak to a wall infact i am more confident starting converstations with a randomer than standing in silence in a que it makes me uncomfortable..

So i will hopefully be in uni next year and i can easily talk to anyone its juat the randon flusters i get and the anxiety thats scaring even when im asking this it sounds strange as it came from nowhere! because i would stand and chat to anyone and become close to them in a day i click with moatly everyone, its just i hate this anxiety and i want to be able to actually go to a restaurant and not leave because i take a mini attack thing its stupid i know but has anyone got any tips or even know whats going on? and as i said im very chatty so sorry for the book Rowal Dahl wouldnt have a look in! ps. i cant spell sorry.

Help... please!

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago
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    I think it may be the stress of college that is bringing this on. Seriously. School gives me anxiety as well.

    Also, it sounds like it could be panic attacks. I understand where you are coming from. I have become a total recluse myself. Mainly due to too much computer usage. For me, my problem is that it is just so much easier to be on the computer than to go out and do real things. I don't know when or how it happened but I have come to use this as a way to avoid interacting with people. When I am not at work I am in front of this thing.

    Here is an article in wikipedia about social anxiety. You may have already seen it but I will post it anyway. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety

    http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/anxiet...

    The worse thing one can do with a condition like this is isolate themselves. In my opinion and my own experience it worsens the effects of the condition. Sorry you are going through this.

    I do not suffer from the fearfulness of anxiety. But I do suffer from the uncertainty that it brings. I am avoid going out like I used to. I feel safer in my home.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Well you aren't tooo specific about what you are eating. Roughly how many calories? If you trying to lose weight I would aim for 1200-1500 calories a day. Sometimes you can eat more, you have the right to indulge. Just make it an occasional thing.... like a few times a month. And excersize is really the key to losing weight. It sounds like you've changed your fitness habits lately and have lost some weight so that's good.. its working. But if you want better, faster results your going to have to workout more. Swimming is great! And speed walking is good too.. although running would be ideal. If your not ready to run, you should ease your way into it and once you've shed a little weight try jogging a bit. Whatever excersize you can get it is good, try to get an hour a day. Don't give up! I've been struggling with my weight fluctuating ever since freshman year, and I think Im finally getting it together.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

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    Alternative therapies can be helpful in reducing anxiety, but it may take some time before you see results. If you are having a panic attack or other severe symptoms of anxiety, alternative therapy alone will probably not be enough. Alternative therapies often work best when used along with traditional treatment like medication and counseling. It’s always best to consult your doctor before beginning an alternative treatment program, especially one that includes herbal remedies. Some of these can have serious side effects, and some can be harmful if combined with certain prescription medications.

  • 8 years ago

    Something is triggering it maybe the stress from college the environment, a new social setting like college can cause anxiety to people its just takes time to get use to think of it in a way when it was your first day of school in elementary that kind of feeling where kids cry something like that.

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Perhaps you had a set back and generalised the effect to other areas of your life. If you build your confidence then your anxiety may decrease;

    http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence

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