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Is he really interested/into me?

So I met this guy (we'll call him N) online a couple months ago and when we first started talking it was pretty great. It was very casual yet very flirtatious and it seemed like a good start to something that I haven't had in a long time. Well, a few weeks ago it had changed. He began to text/call less. At first I thought he was perhaps trying to test me because he would always text/call/FaceTime first so I began to initiate the conversation. But it seemed like now I was the only one doing it and I just stopped. He does text me maybe every other day or every couple days and he will FaceTime me everytime he gets the chance but when he does he really doesn't try too hard to keep the conversation going. Example, if I ask him how his day is going he'll reply back with a "it was ok." And he won't bother asking me how mine went or try to progress the conversation any further. I have asked him if he is actually interested in me and he says he is. But he hasn't bothered to really show me. I still haven't seen him (except on FaceTime) but I have really been wanting to meet him in person. (He lives an hour away) the reason we couldn't meet up at first was because he had just gotten some surgery done on his knee and couldn't drive at all last month. And unfortunately for me I have no car to visit him myself. But his leg is now heeled and has been for a few weeks now. He always tells me we need to hang out but when I bring up the matter of "when?" He brushes it off with an idk..I'm just very confused because he does flirt with me and says he likes me yet there's times where he makes it seem like I annoy him which is why I've backed off. At times I wonder if he's waiting for me to start my new job (in 3 days) because he has run into a lot of gold diggers and perhaps wants to make sure I am an independent woman who has no interest in his money? If that's the case I would understand but I just don't know. I really don't want to waste my time because I'm very attracted to this guy and I don't want to get ahead of myself and look like an idiot like I have in the past with other men. He seems like a very sweet, genuine, hard-working guy so I don't see why he would just give me the run-around. Can someone help me understand a man's point of view? I would really like to know if I even have a chance with this guy. Any feedback would be much appreciated. Please and Thank you (:

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  • 8 years ago
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    Unfortunately, I think he might not be all that interested after all. I know I act in a similar fashion when I lose interest in a girl. It might not be your fault. 1 hour is still a pretty long distance and he hasn't met you in person. He might also have other women on his mind. It's generally pretty hard for a guy to straight up tell a girl he doesn't want attention. That's when we start saying,"Let's hang out!", but never get around to it. I think you should mirror his behavior. Don't initiate and be dull. If he isn't interested, he'll be fine with this. If he is, he'll try to change your behavior. Good luck!

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