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How do I fix our sex life?
My husband and I have been together for 5 1/2 years. Although the sex has never been great it's gotten progressively worse. He is a short shooter and tends to roll off even if I haven't achieved an orgasm yet. There are other ways he can help me with that but he won't. I have talked to him about it and yet nothing changes. He also does NOTHING to make me feel like a sexy, desirable woman either which I told him about recently. Not long ago, after that conversation, I came out of the shower naked and cuddled up to him telling him he should get naked too. His response was to shrug his shoulders and say, "meh." This after I had just told him he doesn't make me feel good about myself. I'm so heartbroken I don't know what to do anymore. Desperate enough to ask for help here of all places. :(
7 Answers
- LucyLv 68 years ago
Leave him.
He maybe can't help being a "short shooter" but he can, and should, make sure he's satisfying you in other ways. The fact that he refuses to suggests to me that he just doesn't care enough to even try staying up long enough. He's taking sex for his own pleasure and giving nothing back.
In short, he's a selfish ****** and I have no idea why you've put up with him for this long.
- 8 years ago
i apologise for his poor performance . he has let all of us men down. But "long shooters" dont become "short shooters" overnight. So guess what? You married this short shooter with the full knowledge of his dreadful performance in bed beforehand. So what do you want from us? You want an ok to cheat? Or a magic potion to turn him into "Daddy Long-Bone". Cause neither is happenning. You have three choices. Stay and deal with it, voice your feelings to him ,or let him go. You've already tried one of those so.....good luck.
- 8 years ago
He's not into you, and for the sake of the marriage he should go to counseling with you. He is likely a "short shooter" because it seems he's not completely into the marriage idea. This statement comes from his ignoring your direct comments about compliments and suggestions.
I recommend the Five Languages Of Love for both of you, which I will not link here due to Y!A terms.
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- GirliegirlLv 48 years ago
Tell him you want an open marriage so that you can be sexually satisfied (this doesn't need to be how you honestly feel it's to see his reaction) He should be against it and ask you how he can fix the problem if he truly loves you and wants you. Which you know the answer tell him to jack off first, foreplay, and s*x.
If he doesn't care it shows you he only cares about himself and his needs and then you need to consider if this relationship is worth saving.
