Question about deceased spouse?

Honey, sooo sorry for your loss. Your M-I-L has just gotten use to calling you that, she of course feels close to you. It's also ONLY been 2 wks. so as far as you go, nothing has changed. As long as you don't mind, I'd feel good to be considered her D-I-L...best to you, honey...:)

Mother-in-law / daughter-in-law has no legal status generally. In most states, maybe even all states, a mother in law is not even among your potential heirs if you die intestate, even when your husband was alive.

The distinction could be relevant only for some of the more atypical insurance products out there, where, for example, you are able to buy adult dependent care insurance for certain elderly relatives, usually it is limited to your parents but you'd have to read the contract terms to see if an in-law of a deceased spouse would qualify.

Be indulgent... let her introduce her as "my daughter" for a while. It may just help her feel like she is closer in some way to her deceased son.

If it bothers you, just do your best to ignore the " Daughter in-law " comments.. His mother has to be going thru a lot with the death of her son. I lost my father at a very young age, and my mother held a lot of his personal belongings, after getting older I asked her why she kept all of his things, even after getting remarried, she told me that sometimes when you lose something you love, a person can be in denial for a very long time, they almost pretend the person never left, and will do anything to keep them from " becoming history", I believe that's what his mother is doing. By referring to you as her " daughter in-law", It almost keeps her son still in our realm.

"Is my mother in law still my family?"

I would assume yes. My MIL would still consider me like a daughter if my husband passed away.

Sorry for your loss, why are you worrying about this? You were married ot her son. Her son is dead, meaning no one else will ever take that title and he obviously didn't end it by leaving you. So, yes you are still her DIL.

yes she is by marriage your mother inlaw-- even though the death has occured there usually is a mourning period and it is an unsaid year usually , but according to the law you can get remarried upon producing a death certificate to prove the death of your husband -- if you have kids , she will always be the kids grandmother so you will always be connected if you look at it this way.

You are still the daughter in law unless you decide you don't want to be. Also it has only been two weeks.

My dear husband died 7 years ago and his family still considers me to be family. I love that. you can never have enough people that love you in your life. Consider yourself lucky and be her daughter-in-law. there's nothing wrong with that.

Could it be possible that she loves you as a daughter in law? What is wrong with that?

Sorry for your loss.

You are so lucky that you have such mother in law.. & relations never die.. She is still your mother in law & your family..

Of course she is still your family! You were her son's one and only wife! Even if you re-marry, I would imagine you and she would want to remain in touch.