Is he a gold digger and a user?

My friend has been dating this guy. They have a 2 year old child. The whole time she was pregnant he wouldn't help her. He even denied the child until it was born and proven to be his. She still ran to him. He did buy a house but only because she moved in with him and right after he made the choice to quit his job, take out all his pension/retirement and let her work while he stays at home to babysit. (Drink beer). He has another child and guess who will be paying the child support? Her!! Guess who will be paying all the bills? Her!! He quit his job and now they plan on getting married. I wish she could see it. The sad part is he talks about her awful to others and friends. He called her a fat b!@$h and bragged about how fat ugly chicks will do anything to keep a man and how he can retire at 41 and let her work while he drinks beer and enjoys life. He even went so far as to say he wants to puke when he sees her without clothes. She is in love and blind. How do you tell someone their man or soon to be husband is this way?