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My friend has been dating this guy. They have a 2 year old child. The whole time she was pregnant he wouldn't help her. He even denied the child until it was born and proven to be his. She still ran to him. He did buy a house but only because she moved in with him and right after he made the choice to quit his job, take out all his pension/retirement and let her work while he stays at home to babysit. (Drink beer). He has another child and guess who will be paying the child support? Her!! Guess who will be paying all the bills? Her!! He quit his job and now they plan on getting married. I wish she could see it. The sad part is he talks about her awful to others and friends. He called her a fat b!@$h and bragged about how fat ugly chicks will do anything to keep a man and how he can retire at 41 and let her work while he drinks beer and enjoys life. He even went so far as to say he wants to puke when he sees her without clothes. She is in love and blind. How do you tell someone their man or soon to be husband is this way?

My cousin stopped to visit. She's a young mother who is somewhat wild and not yet willing to settle down. She seems to feel trapped by motherhood and is always seeking a babysitter or someone to take her kids so she is free. Anyway, while here her baby( 18 months) got fussy. She took her outside and came back in without her. She put her in the car!!! Left her in her seat!!! To cry herself to sleep!!!! The car was parked in a graded driveway facing a steep hill!!! This was after dark but still. She came in the house, sat down, and wanted to watch a movie. Leaving her baby out in the car!!!! I went and sat on my porch so I could hear the baby and she stayed in the house like it was no big deal. How do I tell her about this? These poor kids!!!! I know this is child neglect, I just don't know what to do!!!!

We've had nothing but issues with my husband's sister. For years she used family and her parents raised her son. She is so immature and acts like a teenager. At 38 she got pregnant again and ended up living off of her parents in their basement. Did I mention her mother was fighting for her life with cancer at this time too? So finally she moves away after realizing her parents have issues and can't do for her anymore. We figured we were free of her. No!! She starts sending nasty texts to my husband. Is there an app or something for an iPhone to block her?

Over the last year my husband and I have had issues with his sister and parents. His sister is 38 years old and has a good job making a lot more than my husband. She isn't married and has an 11 year old and recently hooked up with another guy who wants no part of her and got pregnant again. She blows her money in bars after work, out to eat, and on stupidity. She expects family to help her yet she won't help herself and refuses to grow up and live like an adult with adult responsibilities. After she got pregnant again she moved back in with her parents because she said she couldn't afford rent and daycare. She's a registered NURSE!! My husband and I refused to help her basically enabling her. My in-laws think we should dedicate ourselves to her because they see her as being less fortunate. They hate me because I'm a stay at home mom and think I should just help raise her kids too! She cannot even provide for her kids yet she makes a very good living. My husband's sister said horrible things to my kids about me and my husband and went so far as to speak negatively about my father who recently passed away. To my kids!!!! Well to sum it up... My in-laws blame us for everything and are in denial. They pick up all tabs for my husband's sister and make excuse after excuse for her. We tried to bring to their attention that they dedicate their lives to her and her kids and our children our neglected. We live five miles from them and my kids would see them on holidays and they would take them to dinner on their birthday. That's it!! Never called them and basically act as though they don't exist. Well.. This year they wrote us a letter saying they are writing us off!! Apparently that means their grandkids too. They didn't even have enough decency to send them even a card for Christmas. It really hurt my kids feelings. They already felt neglected. Now they ask me why their grandparents hate them. How on Earth do I explain this situation to them?

I come from a very loving family. My grandparents and parents hugged and showed us lots of attention and affection. When I got married I could sense my in-laws didn't believe in showing affection and they seemed cold and emotionless. When I had kids they never seemed to want to hold or hug them. When they got to be toddlers and school age my father-in-law would shake their hands and say see ya buddy at goodbyes. I found this strange. Is it me?? Why would someone feel it is wrong to hug their grandchild? Why do they think showing affection is wrong?

I have a friend who in the past year has lost at least 40 or more pounds. She also complains of pain and of having fibromyalgia. I'm concerned because the last time I saw her it was obvious her nose had collapsed. She now has a saddle nose. She said it was from a bad sinus infection but I am sure your sinuses have nothing to do with the septum or wall inside the nose. Am I wrong to think she is snorting something and is hiding a drug problem? The weight loss and the nose??? I'm no doctor so I may be wrong. So I'm asking... Can a sinus infection get so bad it would cause the septum to collapse?

My nephew whom my kids haven't had at our home for a year due to his mother and I not seeing eye to eye came to visit with my in-laws. During his visit he asked my son if he could borrow an Xbox game. He told my kids he bought the game with his birthday money and his mom took the game not long after and sold it. He asked her for either the money to buy something else or another game since it was "his" birthday money that bought it. He said she yelled I don't give a F@$k at him! This is the reason I avoid her. Now I'm upset and hurt for my nephew. I wanted to cry? How could a mother steal from her own child? So I want to buy him a new game. I feel bad for him. She's awful!!

My father and I were very close. We spent every day together. He was everything to me, my husband, and my kids. Not only was he my dad, but also my best friend. We could talk about anything. I felt no shame or embarrassment asking him for advice. He was never judgmental or negative. My dad was very special to me. He took on the role of being both parents to me since my mother took off and left us when I was only 8. He was diagnosed with liver disease a few years ago but seemed to be living well. He got sick last March and ended up in the hospital. It was an awful experience for me. His mind went, he turned yellow, he went into a coma, and I held his hand while watching him take his last breath. I don't think I'll ever be the same. I cry every day. I miss him so badly. I feel like a part of me died too. I'm 34 and didn't expect to deal with this so early in life. I am very depressed, but try not to show my emotions. I cry at night when nobody can see or hear me. I've gained 20 pounds, and I feel horrible. Will this ever get any better?

I'm completely shocked. My husband's sister is 37 years old and a mother of one child with no dad and is due to have another in May. She had a fling with the father for 3 months before getting pregnant and he lives hours away and has a life in another city. He isn't willing to give up that life for her nor is he willing to support her. She cannot afford to take care of her one child and depends on family for childcare for the older one. Now she asked mommy and daddy and is moving back in with them because she cannot make it on her own and has no money. Let me remind you that this woman is a nurse who makes a decent living. At 37 years old being pregnant again with no man. She has no retirement, no savings, nothing. She lives by being a leech off of others. Why will she not grow up? Why does she think it's ok for others to support her and expect it? What is wrong with her? Her parents are 65 years old. Just retired. This is what they get to retire to. It's awful.

These people who live on the same road as me have two horses. They haven't had them long. They have less than 1 acre of land to roam and in the rain it turns into a mud hole. These horses have no shelter to get away from the wind or that is a dry clean place to eat or drink. They are left out in this muddy mess to stand 24/7. They do get fed and watered, but I just think the living conditions are ignorant. They are fenced in what used to be part of their yard. It isn't that big. Especially for two horses. I understand horses can tolerate the weather when able to roam over a large area, but being confined to a small fenced in area that is a muddy mess and just standing in it all day is awful.

I just can't get along with my husband's sister. She degrades me and my husband to others and family members. She's been doing it for years and I always let it go, but what happened recently is a little bit too hard to just forget. My dad passed away in May and a few days after we buried him I left my kids at my in-laws who were also babysitting her son. Her son told my kids his mom told him that their mommy is a nasty disgusting woman who comes from a nasty disgusting family. This made my kids cry.

She is a single mom who's main goals in life is to manipulate someone else into watching her son so she can get her drink on and fooling around with any man who will have her. She lies to her parents and portrays herself as being something she is not. She hates me because I know who and what she really is. I know what types of things she has done and currently does. She tells people I am a lazy mother who refuses to get a job and who makes my husband work so much because I have to try to outdo everyone. I am far from demanding. I live in a small 3 bedroom home out in the country away from it all but it is paid for. I have a car that is 5 years old but again it is paid for. I am not stuck on material things. The only thing I can figure out is that she is jealous of me and my husband's relationship because she doesn't have one. She's so miserable with herself that she hates us because we are happy or she hates me because she feels I took away the only man in her life. Her brother. They used to be close as kids but he grew up and is serious about life and she still acts like a carefree teenager. My husband and I sat down after being so hurt and had enough pain this year with everything that has happened that we decided to just wash our hands of her. We are tired of her hurtful ways and in our opinion a family isn't a group of people who constantly hurt each other over and over. His parents blame us and just expect us to keep quiet and go on like nothing ever happens all the time. They place no blame on her actions at all. So we keep our distance from all of them. It's a sad ending but for us it is the only way to keep from being hurt and protecting our kids from having to listen to others degrade and belittle us to them. It's terrible.

This has been an issue for years now. My in-laws basically raise my nephew while his mother is either at work, drunk, or sleeping off a drunk. They worship him. They do everything with him. They are willing to give up their golden years to help raise him. Yet they cannot set any time aside for my kids. They do not call my kids, they do not come visit, (we live 3 miles from them) and they show no interest at all. I have tried to bring this to their attention and I get told my kids have a better life so they don't need as much attention from them. I get told my kids have 2 parents and he only has a mom. Why should this affect my kids? It was easier to deal with when my kids were younger but my son is now 11 and he asks questions. Like Don't grandma and pap like me? Why don't I ever get asked to go places with them? My in-laws have been to my house 2 times in 12 years. What is wrong with them? Why are they treating my kids like this?

My husband has a buddy who comes over to hang out and occasionally brings his 5 year old son. He always has been drinking and brings at least a 6pack with him and drinks it while visiting. Me and my husband sit and talk with him but neither of us drink. It's weird. He then puts his son in the car(and only in a seat belt) even though he should be in a booster seat until age 8 and drives off after drinking 6 beers. Me and my husband both feel this is awful and I have told him I don't like it. He tells me mind my own. I want so badly to report him and him get caught. I think he deserves this if he is going to endanger his child by drinking and driving with him in the vehicle. What type of parent does this? Not a good one if you ask me. I feel like if they wreck and the child dies it is my fault for not reporting him. Then I think I should mind my own too. UGH I just wish he would stay away!

My husband and I have a childhood friend who on occasion likes to bring his child to visit and to play with my kids. The problem is this child is so hyper and runs through my house tearing out toys and making a mess. He also has a habit of breaking things. During their last visit he got a hold of my son's nintendo DS and tore it into two parts. I never heard one word like sorry or I'll help pay for that. They just left. I do understand this isn't just the child's fault but the parent also. Our friend is divorced and gets his son only one or two weekends a month. I honestly don't think he knows how to discipline his child. Lately when he has called and left a message that he might stop and visit we hurry up and take off somewhere making sure we aren't home. We like our friend but his child is too much to handle.

I have owned my home and lived there for 11 years. In May of this year my father past away leaving me his home out in the country. I painted and worked on making my house buyer friendly and placed a sign in the yard for sale by owner. I thought nothing of it. My house is empty and is for sale at this time. I have no intentions of renting it or doing land contract. I know that is against FHA regulations and have no interest in do that anyway. So today I get a letter in the mail from US Bank that says my home has to be occupied by me for the life of the loan and it must be my primary residence. I remember being told I cannot sell for 10 years and it has been more than that. I am not renting it and no person lives there right now. I cannot understand these terms. So what do people do if they have to move due to a job relocation or like in my situation inherited a home? I cannot live in 2 houses and have no desire to sell the home that belonged to my father. Am I not allowed to sell my house? They sent me a property affidavit and a nasty warning saying they will enforce rules of the loan. Do I have to live there until the day of the sale? This is just absurd.

I have never really felt close to my husband's sister. She and I are like night and day. I am a homely individual who dedicates myself to my kids and husband. I try to conduct myself and my actions in an appropriate manner for a middle age mother of 2 and a wife. I do not hang out in local pubs or bars or ship my children to babysitters rather than spending that time doing something constructive as a family. My husbands sister leaves her child with my in-laws at least 4 to 5 days and nights a week. When she does get a day off she again leaves him there and goes out and gets what she calls her drunk on. When she has him at home she puts him to bed then invites friends over and drinks the night away while he is in bed asleep. This is her business and is not my concern. What became my concern is when her son came to me and said she picked up a man and took him to a hotel. She went into the bathroom and locked the door. She told her son to watch television while she had sex in a hotel bathroom. I questioned her about it and told her it was horrible and she is a bad mother if she was doing things like that.

We haven't spoke since. Recently my father passed away and my kids lost their pap pap. They were at my in-laws while I was taking care of things and her son told them I was nasty, selfish, and come from a nasty, disgusting family. This upset them as they loved my dad and my other family members who are good people with very good paying jobs such as school superintendents, vice president of the department of taxation, and financial advisor for the Ford Motor Company. She is a piece of work who sleeps around with many men, takes pictures of men licking her boobs and post them on social sites, and who is a leach and lives off of my in-laws. They raise her son for her. Should I say something to her or just let this go. I have looked the other way many times and people constantly come up to me and say she talks terrible about me. She even did it at my dad's funeral. She sat in front of my dad's casket and talked terrible about me to my cousin who later told me what she said. Man this woman is something else!

My husband got very ill this week and went to the local hospital ER. He was admitted and placed in a room. He instantly noticed that there were video cameras mounted on the wall facing each of the two beds in the room. The nurse then brought in a bedside toilet and told him he would have to use it since there was no restroom in his room. He was placed in an ICU room due to shortage of rooms available. He was completely capable of going to the restroom and can walk just fine. He really feels uncomfortable with the cameras on him and really isn't ok with using a bedside toilet especially while under video surveillance. He feels like his privacy is being invaded. I have been in many hospitals and ICUs. I have never seen anything like this. Is it even legal? I mean they are video recording patients. These people are going to the bathroom and at times unclothed. The nurses use the monitors to watch the patients instead of having to walk and check on them. Kinda lazy for a small town hospital that doesn't even have a trauma center ER. The number of patients is small. This is a small hospital that is mainly used as a rehabilitation center after surgery.

My sister is a single mom. The father is unknown. My parents have been watching her son for several years. At times I think she takes advantage of them. It seems like she has her schedule made so they have him the most and she doesn't. She uses excuses so they keep him overnight. Like it's too late to come and get him after work. He has school. She then goes out and gets drunk after work. I would say they have him 4 to 5 days and nights a week. She only sees him long enough to take him to school in the morning. Well my mom found out she has a life threatening illness and she is in her upper 60's. I tried to tell my sister that my dad would now have to help care for mom and they cannot be raising her 8 year old son too. They are too old and have already raised three kids. I think she is upset and I know she has made her life so she can't live without free babysitters. She lived as though my parents were going to do it forever. She needs to grow up and face reality. That mommy and daddy aren't always going to be here to take care of everything. I might sound mean, but she really needs to be more independent. They spoiled her and now she is used to that and cannot make it on her own.

I blocked a person before they even had a change to send me a friend request. I have no interest in being a friend and I really don't want them to be able to read anything I post. I have blocked others before and it was like they didn't exist. Why can I still read their comments to mutual friends on live feed and friends' walls. I have tried to block them several times. I can still see their comments.

Most people have told me yes that means I will be hired. A company will not spend the money on a drug test or a physical if they are not interested in hiring you. These things are costly. Is this true? I had an interview and was called back for a second. Both went very well. I was then called the other day and asked to do the drug test and physical. I'm hoping I got hired but don't want to jump to things thinking it is an absolute yes.