Is this behavior odd?

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I come from a very loving family.  My grandparents and parents hugged and showed us lots of attention and affection.  When I got married I could sense my in-laws didn't believe in showing affection and they seemed cold and emotionless.  When I had kids they never seemed to want to hold or hug them.  When they got to be toddlers and school age my father-in-law would shake their hands and say see ya buddy at goodbyes.  I found this strange.  Is it me?? Why would someone feel it is wrong to hug their grandchild?  Why do they think showing affection is wrong?

npalmal, phd · Accepted Answer

idk, but i had a set of grandparents that were exactly like that and a set that were exactly the opposite. it's strange, i know. but when your children grow older, your in-laws are not going to have any of your children's affection, so it'll be their loss.

were they like that to your husband when he was a kid? maybe they're just that way.

either way, sounds like your children will gravitate towards your side of the family, so that's good.

Cup cakes · Answer

Maybe when they were growing up they never got affection and attention. So to them it's strange and there not completely sure how to show it. 

I hope i helped in some way

Anonymous · Answer

This case is normal... As
years pass by, thinkings
of d on going generation
changes... D younger
generation wants
everything in fashioned
now a days, So dey dnt
try to do things which wil
make them old fashioned
in d eyes of others...

? · Answer

What you describe is quite common, and not wrong.  They show affection differently, that's all.  Get over it!

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