I don't want to go to my daughter's wedding?

You're incredibly selfish. This is your daughters happy day, and evidently she loves this man enough to marry him despite his poor qualities as you describe them. How cruel you must be to deprive your daughter of your attendance on her wedding day. It's immature and nasty. You don't have to like him nor approve of him, but a daughter needs her father to be there. Who is she going to be thinking of when she's walking down that aisle? You're going to ruin her day, and I hope you can live with that.

Hi Keith. It depends how you all get on! Assuming civilised behaviour, this is your daughters day so you and her mother should sit together and your new partners sit among the respective family groups - they don't have an official role, they are just guests. You and your ex should greet the guests together and sit together at the wedding breakfast, then do the evening greeting together too. You are in the role of parents, not couple, for this event and should act as such. Once the evening greeting session is over, you would be free to go back to your current partners and your official duties are over until the couple departs - at which point toe four of you go together and say goodbye. To give your daughter the best possible day, that is what you should do. Good luck, Steve. PS Make sure for photographs that as well as the official groupings, that you get some with current partners also.

My Aunt asked my mom something when I got engaged and she didn't fully agree. "Do you want to gain a son in-law or lose a daughter?" As hard as it is for parents, you have to remember that you raised your children to be smart independent individuals and you need to respect their decisions, even if you don't agree. Just try to be supportive and hope you daughter sees her fiance's shortcomings and they address them or that if he won't be changing, that she sees it on her own soon.

My mother said a lot of hurtful things about my fiance and essentially told me I would no longer be part of the family if we married. The thing is, she did not give my fiance a chance and could not see that he was actively working on the issues that she held against him. He has honestly worked so hard to show my mom how much he loves me and wants to be part of our family. But there's still that part of me that hears those nasty things she said and the way she treated me. Our wedding is in July and you can still feel some of the tension even though he's changed in wonderful ways.

Just be careful what you do. You don't want to damage your relationship and once you say/do something, you can't take it back. If you truly think there is something you must must say, do so in a loving, I care about you way. Tell her how you feel but end it by saying that you know you've raised her into a strong intelligent woman and will be happy as long as she's happy.

Good luck!

While I don't condone lying, there may be good reason behind why he didn't take that last semester. Has he told you how much he's spent on his toys (and how much he makes)? If not, you have no reason to judge him for such purchases.

It is your daughter's life and this is the man she wants. Her love life is none of your business. I think you should rise above it and go. Give her the benefit of the doubt - you raised her to be a good person and make smart choices, and she sees something in this guy that you don't. You should trust her instincts. Besides, if you DO grow to like this guy, you'll regret not going. Even if you don't, it's not worth risking the relationship you have with your daughter.

If you've already talked to your daughter about this, and she knows how you feel, then there's nothing you can do. It's her decision, whether it's a healthy one or not. Don't damage the relationship by refusing to go the wedding. If she does end up unhappy, she is going to need your emotional support in the future. If it works out, then you won't feel terrible for having ruined your relationship over nothing.

Be courageous. If you cannot celebrate, stay home. Weddings are celebrations. It sounds like there is very little to celebrate with this union. Your daughter will get over it in time and you can help her out of the disaster that is about to take place.

Maybe take your daughter out of a date and tell her how you feel but tell her you will love her and support her decision. If you don't go to the wedding that makes you more immature than your daughter's fiance.

Then don't go.It's your loss.If you're not going to support your daughter on her wedding day then you're just a selfish a'hole who deserves to lose his relationship with his daughter.My Mum has always said that she would NEVER tell us she hates any of her kids partners,that she will be civil even in the face of great dislike and for one simple reason - they are OUR choice and she will respect that.I have a child with my fiance and I know she would never say a bad word against him because of her grandson.Respect your daughters choice and support her marriage.If/when it all goes wrong,she will need you

If you decide not to go to the wedding, the don't expect to be part of your grandchild's lives in the future either. You statement will have future consequences for both you and your wife. Do you really want to spend birthdays and holidays without precious grandkids?

You really should go. If this guy is as bad as you say and the marriage doesn't last, your daughter is going to need you and your love & support. You don't want to damage your relationship with your daughter. You want her to know that she can always count on you