PLEASE HELP!!! Relationship problem!!!?

First off, once you said you were from Ireland, I read the rest to myself with an Irish accent. Second, have you to respect your girlfriends point of view if you want her to respect yours. The "my way" attitude just doesn't fly in a relationship. Moving on, Emma has just recently split up with her boyfriend. She is probably an emotional wreck and needs her friend to help her get her through this. I don't know if she is experiencing the "fight or flight" emotion when we all face something that triggers anxiety, such as a break up, when actually considering to head to California. Think to yourself, would she even consider going there if her and her boyfriend didn't split? Probably not, so she is possibly thinking irrationally and running from her problems, but actually going to California, seems a bit far fetched and when her emotions settle down, she will spend her "golden years" with friends in your home country. As for her bringing up the fight that you and your girlfriend had. I completely agree with you that it was disrespectful and inappropriate, as well as none of her business. Again, she could be an emotional wreck and thinking irrational, so maybe her belittling the relationship of her friend will make herself feel better. People do stupid and crazy things when they are faced with a break up and sometimes will go to any means to make themselves feel better, which I believe this is the case. You have to understand her situation and put it in perspective and really think to yourself, is this something I should be upset about or is it something I can just let go. Is it really worth a fight between you and your girlfriend? I would hope not.

Dear Andrew,

I have read your question and I will give you my opinion. I feel that your girlfriend's friend is hurting and right now she feels hurt and rejected and dislikes men. Also she is a bit jealous perhaps of you and your girlfriends good relationship.

I know that if it were my best friend,I would sit down and talk to her about this. Try not to be judgemental as I did so. As for wanting to show your girlfriend this, that is fine but the point should be to help her friend not prove your right by having someone else say you are or even if it is logical.

I would suggest trying to be supportive. However I can also see where you are frustrated as the Best friend has brought up things that had hurl you and your girl's relationship in the past. True this things were resolved but however things like that can have long lasting resentments and bad feelings even after awhile and even when people have forgiven each other.

This girl Emma is clearly jealous and wants to ruin your relationship because she does not have one of her own currently. Though perhaps and I mean this as a bif if.. Perhaps she doers not realize it? I doubt it seriously that she is not purposely trying to drive a wedge between you and your girlfriend.

Well clearly Emma is selfish, and in need of a good friend. Aka your girlfriend will do. At this point Emma is in pain, and the only way for a girl out of a relationship to get over it, is to jump into another one. So Emma needs a friend to be with her, while she goes out and gets another guy. Basically sorry to say it this way, but Emma wants to whore around for a bit. She needs a friend to be with her.

She knows your girlfriend is a good friend, but she won't go whore around with Emma when she is with you. So Emma wants your girlfriend to be single with her, so that they can both go have fun. Summer in California. I live in California and summer in California, buddy **** will go down. Though you can't say this to your girlfriend because she will be pissed and defend her friend. So what you got to do, is just keep being that amazing boyfriend. If you start to lose this battle then you use the big guns. THE TRUTH. Tell her, that you are worried that Emma is trying to break you guys apart. Then be ready to back it up. Though don't say anything negative about Emma, just some stuff she has said or done that would prove it true. Your girlfriend will take it into account. Then when Emma does this again, and bring up leaving you to your girlfriend. Your girlfriend will see that you are right, and push her friend away, for you.

honestly, i think her friend is jealous.

i'm not sure if i can clearly read the mood but,

maybe making that person know that you two are in a good relationship could not only make her feel guitly of what she said but also make her KNOW that she is butting in. if you let her know that she is butting in you can't be frank with it,this will not only make her hate you but also, make your girlfriend have mixed feelings about you.

you seem like a nice person, so you might not be the kind of selfish person.you could show a little selfishness and catch f your gf off guard.

another option is tell your girlfriend that you're botherd by her and ask if you could hook her up with sombody.

i WOULD NOT show anger(but a person like you wouldn't do that).

i feel that this is a very delicate situation so i would sugest talking with your gf and confessing your feelings. it would be best not to let the friend hear.

this is a hard problem to solve but try not to give up.

i am sorry for the horrible advice :l

i honestly believe that there is no way for us to tell what emma's intentions are. It could be any of the following:

-she is upset about her own situation with her ex, and kinda unhappy she doesnt have a significant other, and is unknowingly bringing up the fight just bcus her mentality is in a different mind set right now

-she purposely brought it up, maybe to rile something up between you and your gf

-she just said it just to say it, no harmfulness intended.

it could be either of them.. and as im typing this, i see that i might have been no help to this situation you're in lmao. sorry! but i dont think any of us can tell what the answer is bcus we dont know her nature

i think shes jealous of ur gf and u she wants ur gf all to herself anyway dont tell this to your gf cause this could just end up with a fight .just be careful with this emma as of what do i think of her well....shes a SELFISH B***H