I think I'm gay but how do I tell my friends?

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I'm pretty sure I'm gay because I've always felt like a girl sort-of. I'm attracted to guys but girls just don't appeal to me. I'm only 13 but my parents sort of already know I have these thoughts and stuff. 

My problem is how I tell me friends. I already went through a phase of being gay and I told alot of people but I started feeling straight again so I told everyone I was straight. And when people ask (alot of people ask because I act pretty gay) I tell them I'm straight... I don't really know what my friends will do but I know my parents will be okay with it so I'm not worried about that. 

So my question is how I can tell them, I know they will all be cool with it, but I'm afraid they'll be like "didn't we already go through this" or something like that. 

Thanks,
Trevor(:

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I don't think gay boys feel like girls necessarily. As a gay male friend once told me, "gay men are still men", there's little doubt that gay men do not think of themselves as female.

you've always felt like a girl sort of, does that sound more that you may be transgender as opposed to being a gay male? can you imagine yourself or envision yourself being one of the girls and living life as a female?

I don't think you need to tell your friends exactly what your sexuality is until you're finally sure about who you are as a person. in the meantime, you are just you, trevor-san, and you may prefer to refer to yourself as gender queer for the moment until you realize your sexuality.

Ryder · Answer

What you have to do...and this is a very potential pathological techniqe....so be careful with it, it has ****** up alot of lives. DON'T use this too much. The technique is...you must perceive people as objects. You have no reason to care, no reason to be embarrassed, no reason to feel empathy. Just nothing...

GQ · Answer

If they ask just tell, them. Also you can bring it up casually. As for the whole straight thing. Just tell them you weren't sure. You were experimenting.

Wise Old Cat · Answer

Don't tell anyone.  There is no need to do that.  Just work on your education for now and see how things fall out.

SupaDupa Fly · Answer

Be who you are, tell them how you feel, everyone. Its more important that your family is ok with it than friends. My friends left me when i told them, but dont let that ruin your whole life, i found my meaning.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fWjtghgyhZ8 Love just is whatever it may be.

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I think I'm gay but how do I tell my friends?

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