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Should I just let things take their course or should I slow his roll? Please help?
So I met this guy online almost a month ago (We'll call him J). So when we first met each other he kind of just got right to the point with questions like "Are you single?" "Am I your type?" Etc. and we ended up texting and later calling each other that same night. It seemed like instant chemistry. So we had talked about just being friends for now (keep in mind this was HIS idea) and if everything seems right and we really get to know each other then we could actually start talking. Which I thought was perfect because I wanted to take things slow. But we never really talked as friends. He would insist on my questions being relationship based and he said to ask him questions that were based on him and I being in a potential relationship. So I took this as we were actually talking but I still didn't mind because we were still taking things slow trying to get to know each other but last night after not speaking for a few days (because of a personal issue he was going through) I felt as though he was talking to me different. Like it was completely friendly and not how we usually talk which was mostly flirtatious. So I asked him if "We were still talking or do just want to be friends?" And he was completely confused and told me that we never were talking and that we WERE just friends. And you could imagine how confused I was at that point. So we discussed it and I explained to him how the way he would talk to me and the things he expected from me were not how friends act. He agreed and apologized and I just excepted it and was fine with it. It didn't make any difference to me. We were still taking things slow. But he continues to be very flirtatious to me and in my head I just want to tell him "Hey if we're only friends then act like one." But I'm not sure I should just make an exception due to the fact that we both like each other..so should I just let things be the way they are or slow his roll? I really don't mind either way I just don't want there to be any confusion again later..Any advice would be helpful. Please and thank you.
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- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
It sounds like he is feeling you out without telling you what his intentions are or where he is going in his early texting then talking. His problems are his to solve. He is a lot of bs and not much substance. He should stay on the first track until you say it's ok to switch. He is like a steam engine rolling and wants to throw in more coal to make his deadline appear in view. Confused about him? That's make two after reading his intended reasoning's and comments. He is on the fast track so be careful. Smooth talkers and fast talkers say what you want to hear, but do what they want to do. I find very few women or earlier girls being anywhere close to that type of person. Usually they would put their hands up and say slow down or motion me to move closer. I never was confused as long as I knew what she wanted me to do or understand. Get it? I never got confused by the women! I can totally understand your balls of confusion telling him to say he is trying to go slow but really step it up where you just don't notice until it could be too late. Liking someone is one thing, but I would be careful. That way you won't get blind sighted.....
