How can I not hate myself?

you will need to cry out to Jesus to help you. it is no different than the struggle against any other type of sin we as humans fall into. we are all sinners saved by his grace and have to ask him to deliver us from evil and lead us not into temptations. remember that Jesus knows exactly what you feel. the bible says that on the cross, he became sin for us. he became a transgressor..he became a murderer, a thief, an adulterer, a homosexual, a glutton, a blasphemer, etc. so he is familiar with and sympathetic to your struggle.

you might want to ask him to immerse you fully in his Holy Spirit if you have not done that already because the bible says he sent the Holy Spirit in part to give us strength and ability to stand against sin in our lives. also, hang on to and often quote the scriptures which promise that you can do all things through Christ, which strengthens you (philppians 4:13) and to cast down imaginations and every high thing which exalts itself against the knowledge of God and bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ. (2 corinthians 10:5)

i am sure you already know about romans1:26-27 but it might help to re-read it from time to time. as well as reading the book of 1 john which really deals with our sin natures and revelation 21:7-8 is good to keep in rememberance. as is galatians 6:18-26.

in my own life, i have struggled with self love and lesbianism so i find that daily washing by the water of the word and effectual fervernt prayer is what gives us the power to overcome our sin natures and to walk in the holy sinfree nature of Jesus.

some people are called to be celebate in their lives, some are called to be married. ask the Lord to reveal his will to you regarding this and to give you both the strength and the courage to obey his will. it also helps to put on the whole armor of God everyday found in ephesians 6:10-18. just pray it right out loud.

You can't make yourself straight. "Reparative" therapy doesn't repair anything, because you're not broken. You can try to lie to yourself and force yourself to get married and have children, I've known people that did just that. And you know what? They were miserable. They were living a lie and it wore on them and their families. It hurt everyone involved. Eventually they admitted to themselves that they were gay and got divorced. These are all good people they care for their families, they love their children. In every case their children were totally supportive and understanding, they could see how much happier their fathers were. If you believe in god then you probably believe he made you, so why would he make you gay if that is not what he wanted for you? You should find a church that is accepting of homosexuals and talk to them, you will probably feel a lot better about yourself and your situation.

@ vanilla paws: If there were more Christians like you in the world I would be a lot less angry. Thank you for the reminder that there are Christians out there that really do believe in love and are truly decent human beings.

I am not a Christian. Nor am I gay. Your reality is shaped by those around you. If you were born outside a Christian community, you probably would still be gay but you wouldn't be a Christian. Your first step is to communicate with other Christian gays. You must change your religious influences. You cannot just hate yourself without hating those around you that made you feel that way. Move on to an environment that does not breed such hate. It is not fair on anyone to hate like that.

Try: http://www.gaychristian.net/

Morning james,

Hopefully I can answer your question and help. Fortunately Jehovah God is a loving, caring and forgiving God. Although you want forget your past try not to focus on regrets and beat yourself up. Try to work on now and the future. We are all imperfect and sin in someway. But Jesus died for me, you, and others. Please say a prayer to God in the name of his son Jesus(john14:6) and then read some scriptures in your Bible. Psalms chapter 10 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 Matthew 19: 27-29. Please also go to www.jw.org and type in the online search box how to overcome homosexuality and you will find other bible versus and plenty of examples of people who over came a gay life course.

You can do both

In Christianity love is above all

Solution

Only have sex w/ men that you love and who love you in return

One of the real human tragedies about celibacy is that it forces normal people to do something that is completely abnormal which is not forming warm physically close human relationships

If I can look at a dildo and imagine the pleasure I can receive, does that mean I'm attracted to it?

No.

You can imagine pleasure from a woman.

Sorry you tend to not want to.

You'll be fine.

You're only naughty if you act on your desires.

Supposedly.

are you serious? why do you call your sexual preferences perverted? listen, jesus christ came to teach us about love. the church has nothing to do with love. and the church is the one that is teaching you that being gay is wrong and sinful. why is a straight man better than a gay man? those who think perverted thoughts will be punished in the christian hell. but those who love purely are heaven material. you just need to be a good man. don't exploit people. don't have sex with everyone in your way.

you cannot 'become' straight. it's ridiculous. you might end up with a woman just to suppress your feelings but it will not last. if it does last, you will be miserable. you will be lying to that woman and that i know is a sin. but if you find someone you love you can spend the rest of your life with him, being faithful to your relationship and being faithful to god. do not be faithful to church, they are not good people all they want is money.

your desires are not perverted. you are a human being. human beings need to be loved. god made us like this. and god doesn't make mistakes. just follow your feelings and follow your god and be a good man.

do not get depressed about this.

being a good christian doesn't mean going to church and following the commands of the priests. it means loving your god and loving all living beings. don't hurt anyone and be true to yourself and to society.

don't hate yourself. don't hate anyone. hate is not a nice feeling. replace it with LOVE. love yourself. love god. love life. find a partner and love him and then you can be good christians together. if he 's not a christian, who cares? you can be whatever you want to be and be in love with whoever you want to.

good luck

How can you be christian when you're gay?

Doesn't being christian mean you should be doing all the christian things the bible says, like stoning people like that, etc? Or do you only follow some parts of the bible and not others? Again, how can you be christian then?

Romans 7

http://www.blueletterbible.org/Bible.cfm?b=Rom&c=7...

well, i'm a very open minded christian and i say be with the person you love. it is possible to work it all out in your head and be right with God. i don't fully comprehend gayness, as i'm smitten with the ladies, but if you look at your boyfriend and see something more than just a fudge-packer meaning you'd give your life to save him and be with him forsaking every other packer: then go for it, God knows the undertones of your affection and will approve.