Parents would you find this rude if someone's child did this at yours or your child's birthday?

At age 7, the boy was "old enough" to know better but then again, a 7 year old is still a little kid. His mother told him to stop because, yes, the child was not showing good manners. Your father tried to control the situation and asked to cut the cake so the child would be quiet and everybody could enjoy their dinner.

And then, there was you. A 23-year-old acting like a 5 year old... "It's my party and the cake doesn't get cut until I say so"... WHAT DIFFERENCE DID IT MAKE??? Now, you are working yourself into a frenzy worrying if that boy will want to eat cake before you give everybody permission to eat cake. Well, hopefully, the 7 year old has grown up a little and learned to control himself better over the past year because you sure haven't.

This is pretty typical behavior for a seven year old child. Narcissism is a normal psychological state for children of this age. While the child's behavior WAS rude, it was not out of the range of expected behaviors for a seven year old.

I am assuming from your post that you do not yet have children of your own. When you have kids of your own, you'll quickly learn that what you'd like a child to do and what they actually do are wildly different things. Some children are naturally well-mannered, but the majority have difficulty with self-control and impulsivity.

If last year was a surprise party, I suppose you had no control over the guest list. This year I would assume that you would. If you really can't stand the child, simply don't invite his parents. At 8 I would assume his self-control might be a bit better than last year, but I still wouldn't expect miracles.

Pfffffft NO, the parents should be controlling their child. Especially a 7 year old who is old enough to be civilized. Unless he is autistic or something. Because that is how they act and there are ways to manage it and God bless those parents for all the hard times and social nightmares.

But whiny bratty 7 yr old? At a dinner party? You warn them once. Twice. #rd time? You take them away form the dinner table and deal with it. But you don't give in! That is totally freaking rude!

A 7yr old that is close family friend or relative whining about the dinner? If and only if they are close family friend or relative would I feel comfortable offering a grilled cheese or bowl of cereal instead in the spirit of enjoying the evening and putting the value of that time together breaking bread over small battle concerning the food. I would rather my son have a positive bonding meal with our friends and family over the tiny battle of what we are eating. ANd so would our family and close friends. Same goes for them. I would rather spend time with my relatives and have a nice meal than watch some battle over the food being served. If my niece wants Cheerios fine. Back to good conversation and visiting!

He's seven and excited. Maybe they let him cut it whenever he wants on his birthday and he thought it was perfectly okay to want yours?

Everyone said no. He dealt with it and this year he's 8.... He will do better. If not..."sneak" and swipe some frosting off the cake with him. Create memories.

It was very rude, and at 7 the child was old enough to know. Don't invite them to your birthday party. If you are expected to for some reason. write a letter to the parents saying why the child is not welcome. If they behave like that, it is unfair to well-behaved children you might invite.

I'm not a parent. But that is definitely rude. You are under another persons rules. Yet you still have to follow your mom/dads rules. How old was the kid? If it was a toddler of a small kid I could see why they would do that.

he's 7. Still a kid. How many times do we adults act out?

That is unacceptable for the father to make any unreasonable requests on to someone else when it is her Birthday and not his brat's!!!

You can ask that that bratty kid not come to your birthday. Did anyone ever offer you an apology?

If I were you I would be pissed and they would not be coming back again.