Am I a despicable person?

So, here's the story;

A friend of mine, not that close but still a friend, was dating this guy. I was so happy for her as she seemed content and full of joy. One day she brought him with her and introduced me. She knew of a job opening where he worked and they told me to look into it. This guy was cute but I didn't think my type. And I thought I noticed a certain look in his eyes when he looked at me but I didn't think much of it.

Often I would ask my friend, how it's going with him and that they were cute together etc. And I was really, genuinely happy for her.

As for me I was not even remotely looking for romance at that time. In fact I just wasn't interested in dating at all.

A few weeks later, I'm at a dance and that guy is there. We dance, as friends and he is very sweet and easy to get along with. Later that night, he finds and chats me up. I get that feeling again that he kinda likes me and I try to keep it friendly. By the end of the night he asks if I'm still looking for a job and that we could network through Facebook.

So, I think he'd make a good friend and how cool would it be if he could me a job!?

The next day or so, we're Facebook friends now and he is messaging me. Never about work but he's seeming flirty. When I'm sure he's not just being "friendly" anymore,and asks me on a date, I withdraw a bit and he asks if he's made me uncomfortable. I tell him, "I just thought you and my friend were together...?" He tells me, "No, it ended" I make it known I enjoy chatting with him but wouldn't feel comfortable going on a date just yet. So he says, how about just getting to know each-other then?" Seems harmless enough and, not wanting to disappoint him, I agree.

By the end of the night we have chatted 'till 4:00am

A few more nights this continues and each time he breaks me down a little more until finally I agree to a date.

Now, I really like this guy and my friend's heart is broken, though she is trying to be okay with it I sense the animosity. When I saw her today, I nearly cried for causing her pain.

I don't know if our friendship can be mended and this guy and I may have something special.

We text and Skype every night until he passes out. And both of us, I think, are falling for each other, he more quickly than I.

From seeing Facebook posts it seems that they were close and now she considers him her best friend, I think it's only me she hates.

And he assures me that it was not working out but she always called him her prince and he called her his princess. Each time I see that I wonder, if I'm the real reason he broke up with her, though he tells me that It's something else. And what if they were meant to be, not us? What if they both deserve better and I'm just an obstacle?

I wasn't even looking for love in any way and now I just feel screwed no matter what.

-please, be honest but don't be too cruel.