Boyfriend says he isnt sure if he wants to marry me?

You need to tell him you are not ready to get married yet.

Also, if this is true, that you hope it will be to him.

Understand 2 things:

1. NO important conversations should take place except face-to-face. Since the majority of communication is non-verbal (body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, pacing of words, eye contact, etc) .. and even skype is inadequate in this ... please try NOT to discuss things in person. Put any discussion off until you two are together.

2. As for your jealousy, this is YOUR "work" to handle it. Don't dump on him about it.

It is always this way in any relationship. We must work with our own emotions ourselves, and not expect the other to stop being themselves so we don't have to do our work.

You cannot accept him until you take full emotional accountability and responsibility not only for your own emotions and how you handle them, but even for the fact that you are creating your own emotions .. not him.

And unless you can accept him, you two will never be able to open up fully and enjoy that psychological intimacy which is the bond that holds two people together.

As my mother-in-law once told me (she has now been married over 65 years and they are both still very much in love) ...

You either accept or you risk losing the relationship.

Now, of course, that presupposes that what he is doing is not a deal-breaker. Abuse is a deal-breaker. Infidelity is usually a deal-breaker. There ARE deal breakers. If your partner does one of these, you don't even try to work with them .. you leave them.

Otherwise, pick your battles carefully, because each one could break the relationship.

And start paying more attention to your internal processes .. the ones that produce your emotions. Almost guaranteed, it is your fear that caused you jealousy. And that your fear is based on inner fears that you are not worthy enough to hang onto a man's love. You need to turn and give your self-esteem a thorough examination and take action to correct those shortcomings. It's not his fault you are insecure.

But don't be too hard on yourself. It IS difficult to feel secure when your partner is far away, especially for a long time.

What do you specifically do? Act like normal. Until or unless he tells you that things have changed, carry on as usual. You aren't supposed to read his mind .. it's up to HIM to communicate to you. And if things have changed, it's up to him to tell you that.

Concerned, The main reason why husband and wife loses interest on each other is because of too much familiarity. Because they have been together for quite a while that there is no more mystery. You know what to expect and he knows what will be happening during the sex act. deja vu as they call it. To ignite this, you have to create some variations in your sex life. You have to change places where you will be doing it, as they say romantic ambiance ignites something that you don't have before. Go on vacation. have sometime with each other. Make yourself beautiful every time comes home. Just be patient with him, and soon stress or problems that he may have now will evaporate. pray hard for i believe that you have a wonderful husband. God Bless. Congratulation too. If you have other question i am just an email away. Relax.

first of all, he should do his best not to make you feel insecure especially in a long distance relationship. but you also have to trust him. so it has to be a mutual thing or else it won't work.

he might have doubts because he knows you don't trust him (maybe just guessing), and that it won't be good in a marriage (won't last long without trust in each other, will cause fights and even divorce) but idk this is only IF he is thinking about marrying you. if he is not then maybe he has doubts because since he just moved to a different country, get to know more people, the urge to experience things develop. but it shouldn't be the reason why he will leave you if you mean alot to him. just talk to him and ask him what is causing his doubts. and what can you do to help. since you guys have been dating for so long, its a good thing to start talking about the future. at least get things straight of what you want for your future and what he wants is the same thing. or else you r just gonna be wasting time.

I think that you should save the relationship for later. Demote the relationship to friendship so you can both experience other people as well as stay in contact with each other and get the feel for what it's like to have you all to yourself again.

A little later if you guys have a mutual want to get back together again, do it.

If he isn't EVERYTHING that you want him to be right now BEFORE marriage,... then you

can forget about him becoming anything other than what he currently is.