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Where do you draw the line between infatuation and stalking?
Met this amazing guy yesterday. I met him through an online dating service and my general experience with these kinds of encounters have been pretty negative, so you can imagine how overwhelmed I was when this guy turned out to be absolutely amazing. Now I have always been somewhat reserved when it comes to displaying affection but it seems like the feeling's mutual, but my only real concern now is that my infatuation for this guy might end up chasing him away. You know, by appearing too clingy, etc.
Not planning on sending him texts like every 5 minutes, but I've never been in a relationship or in this kind of position so I am feeling a bit lost.
@ Lexy Love, well clearly you meet decent guys now and then. :P
6 Answers
- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
Considering you met him yesterday I highly doubt it's reached the stalking phase. The real line is trust. Controlling people have to know everything about their lovers, what they are doing, etc. They often gain this information through surreptitious means if necessary. It becomes stalking when obsessive and steps are taken to insure that the 'object' of such affections remains unaware. Stalking also usually involves unrequited feelings. In any case, neither are good.
Just trust him if you develop a relationship. Let him have space, let him live his life. As far as not being clingy, if you are trying then there is something wrong. A new relationship should be natural.
- 8 years ago
Just a quick question if you had negative experiences with it then why continue? Anyways I would say just go with what feels right, and it does not become creepy until you start doing something crazy like following him or becoming jealous and possessive when there is no need for that, or sending him creepy letters you know things like that where he can question whether or not you want to love him or kill him. Hope everything works out in the end.
- harisonLv 45 years ago
Virtually, the label is more often than not relative to the level of desire felt by the "stalkee", or "victim". This "relocating goal" makes it rough to outline, in spite of what the dictionary says, on the grounds that the phrase is not used that means. In other words, for those who rather desired some man, and he was once calling you everyday and looking for you on fb, you would not so readily call it "stalking". But if the character was once undesireable and had already been rejected, you would bear in mind it stalking despite the fact that he referred to as as soon as a month.
- ?Lv 68 years ago
Infatuation is loving someone who doesn't even know that you exist. An stalker is someone who perfectly knowns a person, but ther other person doesn't have the vague idea of who they are which might end up in a rape. You have neither, just don't be too clingy.
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- 6 years ago
King is speaking the truth. Personally, that makes relationships really hard. You see yourself as being nice, thoughtful, considerate, etc. But, the person you like is totally creeped out. They won't even come out and tell you that this and this and this bothers them. They just sick authorities on your ***. So, what do you do?
- King of Hearts 4Lv 68 years ago
There isn't one. The only difference is the other's reaction. One sees it as creepy, the other as sweet.