I am annoyed.. but sometimes i feel like i shouldn't feel that way. What do you think?

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I have been dating this girl for a year now. I love her to death. I'm bisexual and she help me accept myself for who i am and i will always love her for that. Lately I have been very annoyed with her. 6 months ago i lived with my mom and step dad. My step dad and i got into a really bad altercation an i decided that it was in my best interest to move out. I was going to move in with a friend but she insisted that i come stay with her. We had only been dating for 6 months and i was not trying to be living with her yet. I thought it would be too early, and not to mention the fact that she still lived at home. Her parents doesn't care but i thought it would be awkward. I agreed to stay with her for a month until i was able to get a place. When that month was up she begged me not to go and got her mom and Little brothers and dad to convince me to stay. Me being a 20 year old still in school decided to stay so i would be able to save up some money. Well my mom and i made up but now my girlfriend is so attached to me she wont let me go anywhere alone. I get annoyed because i want to go hang with my friends but she wants to come and gets offended when i say that she cant. I mean i cant bring my girlfriend to hang with the guys. She wont even let me go to my moms house alone. I told her that i need time away from her and she doesn't understand that. She says when you're with someone you give up thing and make sacrifices for them. I told her that i was NOT sacrificing my mom or my friends for her.. Now i just get annoy with her because she is always there. She's like a shadow. If i do end up going somewhere alone which i usually do after we argue about her not wanting me to go, She will call me or text me about random stupid stuff that could wait until i get home. I have a 45 min drive from work and she calls me everyday on the way home. I don't want to talk to her on the way home. Im about to be with her for the rest of the day, Can't i just listen to my favorite CD on the way home. She doesn't get that. She thinks i should want to talk to her all the time and that drives me nuts. Now we're always fighting because i am not compromising my me time.. I care about her and besides being too attached she is a great girl. I try to hear her out and i will talk to her sometimes on te way home just to make her happy but how do i get her to understand my point of view?? Am i over reacting?? Sometimes i feel bad because she will start crying but sometime i think she cries to make me feel bad and change my mind.. What do you guys think??

Update:

Okay cheyenne, I get what you're saying but i just want to clarify a few things. She never "shows her butt"we have adult conversations but we disagree. We won't yell at each other. I'm not a yeller and she is so sensitive that she would cry her life away if i was to raise my voice. I am always the one ending the conversation because if i don't she will bother me about until i decide that its not worth the head ache and give in to what she wants. She has been with me almost every single time to my moms. The thing is I love my mother, And when i left she was really hurt. I only get to see her on the weekend and i wouldreally like to be able to just chill with her and have family time like we used to. My girlfriend doesn't need to be with us everytime. I talk to my mom about almost everything, for a mothers perspective i just want to be able to have family time with my mother. When i said that she would text and call me i didn't mean while i was driving o

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I was like this with my ex boyfriend and he broke up with me because I literally had no life outside of him. and trust me I learned reallllly quick what I was doing wrong. But you need to spell it out for her just like you did here. Maybe even put it in writing like you just did so she cant say you never told her what the issue really was. If she is this attached to you shes not going anywhere. Tell her you need some space and that in a couple months you guys can talk about getting back together but that she needs to respect your boundaries and that you need some time for yourself occasionally. 

Girls just dont understand why guys need time alone because girls arent that way.. I talk to my girl friends every day at the same times and we talk all day long. We hang out all the time and always invite each other everywhere. We call and text each other a hundred times a day. So when a girl is acting this way with a guy its because she doesnt understand that guys just dont do these things. Shes treating you like you are one of her girl friends and thats not how it should be. 

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Cheyenne · Answer

You need to tell her that you want to sit down and talk to her without arguing and raising voices about everything... and that if she starts yelling or getting to angry to talk like an adult, you're ending the conversation. (Then if she gets angry and starts showing her butt, you NEED to ACTUALLY end the conversation so she takes you seriously)
However - this means you MUST play by the same rules, because if you can't have a conversation with someone you "love" without getting pissed and raising your voice, then you're not mature enough for a relationship.
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If she want's to go with you EVERYTIME you go to your moms... so what! Let her go with you. Sorry, but that's part of a relationship and it's not like you and you're mom "need" alone time. You've had alone time for 20yrs..
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Tell her that you will no longer text when you're driving because if someone jumps in front of you or swerves into your lane and they die... you just read (you're reading it RIGHT NOW, so that won't be a lie) that you will get a manslaughter charge when they pull your phone records and get the times of your text... and that's the truth.
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Hanging out with your friends more than once a week WITHOUT HER is just something that you can't do constintantly and maintain a real, lifelong relationship.
Are they friends that you're having bi-sexual encounters (of any kind) with?
If so, then you need to tell her that, but she'll probably want to watch.
If not, then why you need to be alone with them so much?
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I am a bisexual male, 30yrs old and have been in 3 relationships (all with women) that lasted over 4yrs.
Right now with the LOVE OF MY LIFE!!!!!!
Sooooo.... I tell you what I know from life.
The choice is yours, but I promise you that there will ALWAYS be times that you're aggervated with your partner... NO MATTER WHO YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah that does occur....And plenty of occasions at that. I dont quite believe its a excellent attribute on account that i end up hurting individuals unintentionally. If i ever am in that cranky sort of temper, i be certain that i'm all by myself at the moment. That approach i dont must be sorry later :]

Anonymous · Answer

Signs are it's going to get worse.......................... dump her, in your own interest move on, bad vibes

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