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my 21-month old isn't talking yet?

My baby is 21 months old and we haven't heard him say a single word yet. Sometimes it seems he understands us, because he will put things back up when we tell him to put away something he's thrown on the floor or forgotten about, and he'll clap at the ends of songs such as "If you're happy and you know it" and the "Itsy bitsy Spider", etc. But my concern is that he does all of this out of imitation of our actions, like in the sense that if we get onto him about leaving something on the floor, i'm not so sure that he puts it away because he inherently understands what we're saying, or if he's complying out of a sense of repetition because he's seen us act it out. If that makes sense.

I don't yet have a strong feeling that he understands, because when i try to read books to him he's more interested in flipping pages and never focuses on the colors on the page or the objects or numbers or whatever it may be. We're forever trying to get him to say words, repeating stuff over and over, but he makes no effort to say them back and i'm worried that something may be wrong. He voices frustration by crying, and hunger and all of that, so we've been getting by on distinguishing his different cries. He babbles a LOT, as though he's giving speeches to objects, and he'll give like babble commentary over objects, but should i worry? Or does he sound like a late talker?

He's intelligent, and can imitate anything after seeing it once, like putting keys in locks, figuring out electronic stuff (plugging stuff here and there or swiping on cell phones), putting tops back on bottles, etc; he can feed himself, almost put his clothes on (the motions, anyway), but it's mainly just the speaking that lacks.

Most recently i tried to get him to say "keys" and he said the "eez" part, but didn't pronounce the "K". So at the very least, i think he's solid on vowel sounds, just not consonants? But i wanted to know if any of your experiences with children matched this, because i'd like to rule out hearing problems as the source of delay.

If you can, could you give me advice on how to test at home to see if he has hearing problems? I've tried to see if he recognizes songs in the absence of me miming them out, and he can, but is this a thorough enough test? thanks!

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  • 8 years ago

    some children are just 'slower' in other areas and advanced in others which it sounds with yoru son, but its nothing to be concerned about all children learn at their own pace and if hes starting to understand and copy you then its unlikely there is something wrong with him. my 20 month old doesnt talk much either, she says a few words when she feels like it but most of the time 'baby babbles' but like your son has always be more forward with physical things than speech etc. just keep doing what youre doing, read to him every day and say things to him constantly such as what you are doing etc and he will eventually pick it up and may surprise you with how fast, my 4 year old didnt say much for a while then all of a sudden she was talking non stop now i can never keep her quiet! hes fine just enjoy him at this age as they grow so fast, remember learning comes later you cant get their memories and childhood back though.

  • 8 years ago

    Stop pushing him so much. Most toddlers do NOT speak plainly and clearly until 2+ years of age.

    Buy flash cards; alphabet letters, numbers, colors and shapes. Work with him daily on these and force him to say each as plainly and clearly as he can.

    Find a park, with tons of other kids, and let him play with them....they will get him talking.

    Have him help you with your chores.....give him some simple chores of his own to do; picking his toys up, pulling his covers up on his bed and putting his dirty clothes in a hamper. When he touches something - force him to tell you what it is.

    Have him help you prepare meals.....kids love this. The more a child feels like he or she is 'part' of the family - the better they will feel about them self.

    Right now it sounds like he's getting ready to talk but you don't do anything to force him to talk.

    I raised 3 children and I did everything I could think of to help my children learn how to talk plainly and clearly by the time each reached 2-years of age.

  • That is slightly odd, but my one suggestion is do not baby talk to him. Talk like a normal person.

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