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does anyone else live with agorophobia?
It's the fear of open spaces. My mom hasn't left her trailor in years. (not even to a convience store). She's normal wieght but has no muscle due to sitting on the couch. Shes my best friend and a caring mom.I've asked this here before, but I asked what I could do to get her out and about. Not happening. So, if anyone is going through this (panic disorder too though) or am in my situation of wanting to help, how can I help?
She just started doing word finds. She's 56. There is no hobby she want to take up, just watch t.v......doesn't even get visitors because she's turned everyone away and claims she doesn't want them, and has even told me she wants to live her life thru t.v., which she has obviously demonstrated. So, word finds. Can anyone else think of of (besides the obvious) of more...I don't even know my question for this anymore.
She doesn't and can't (long story) get health insurance. I guess I'm so fed up that my real question is would it be abuse it I went to her trailor and TOLD her we are going for a walk around the trailor (start it off slow) and if she says no I might cry at some point. Is that emotional abuse.........what should I do??????
B4 there are any more answers (the answers were great and am grateful you took the time to answer......but its' worse than this. She won't let anyone in except me or my abusive (at the walls and furniture only) brother. She won't let anyone in. A friend of mine stopped by one time. Not good. It's worse than you'd think She wants to be alone till she dies
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- WhiteRuffedLemurLv 58 years agoFavorite Answer
I went through a phase of it after having an illness. It really was terrible.
My mum forced me to go out and endure it- You can be around as many or few people who are not paying a blind it of notice to you and you feel like everyone is judging you and staring at you. If there's no-one there you feel like they're all just avoiding you and watching from nearby. It's a really irrational thought and you know its crazy but you just can't help feeling it.
It sounds like she's got a touch of depression. Being forced to go out for a walk really didn't help me until I started getting Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
The best thing I think you could do is go to your doctor and ask them to recommend a counsellor or therapist. In certain circumstances they may come to the house to save the battle of getting your mum out. I'm assuming you're not in England so the only issue is they probably will cost a stupid amount of money.
Another thing I would most likely suggest would be to gradually introduce her to different people. Get one of your friends who is really nice and approachable and pop in with her unexpectantly on your mom. Tell her that you're just dropping something off before you both go out to lunch or something. Sit her down and the three of you can have a cup of tea. If you get the right person, they can be quite chatty and eventually put your mom at ease (She will be edgy at first). Make this a regular occurance, when your mom gets used to that, involve another friend. When she gets better with these two friends, tell her that the three of you are taking her to lunch with you. Explain to her that nothing can happen, the three of you are there and you're not going to leave her. Don't take no for an answer. Explain to her that it's for the best and she needs to trust you. When she gets back, give her lots of praise, telling her how well shes done.
It will be a struggle but keep at it.
Hope this helps:
