Guy with a girlfriend, he's kind of flirty but subtle about it. What do I do?

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This guy goes to my school and is a senior, like me. He's super popular, everyone knows who he is. He's super smart and extremely attractive. The thing is, he's been dating a sophomore since like February. He had a girlfriend before her for a year or so.

I started texting him after a group of our friends went out to a baseball game. I made him laugh a lot and I felt like we clicked. I would text him about English but then English ended and I worked up the courage to just text him by saying hey. We joke around  a lot, he's extremely sexual, not so much to me but with his friends and just all around.

He's one of those guys who has sex a lot (I think) and I'm the virgin whose waiting for marriage. He doesn't know that. He's said stuff to me like "you're really cool." And "I wish we knew each other earlier" and he always tries to get me to come to lunch instead of go home. Today, I stayed and he texted me and thanked me for coming. He also makes frequent comments saying "we need to hang out sometime"

He always looks at me when were hanging out (we're only hanging out with friends, never alone) and makes jokes and looks right at me to see if there's a reaction. He made a comment to me a while ago that were reproducing and having babies. I know he was joking but was there some hidden meaning behind it? I really enjoy his company, and the more we talk, the more I like him.

He seems like a great guy but I've heard about how he's somewhat of a player. He already has a girlfriend and I don't want to be the ***** to break it up but I kind of want him all to myself. I know though, that if I dated him, he'd be talking to and flirting with other girls anyways.

Does it sound like he likes me or is he just being him? We text pretty much every day and yesterday I decided not to text him first, just to distance us a little and he texted me at night just saying hey. Although he's in a relationship, is it okay to still talk? Can we be friends without me ruining his relationship?

Mitzz · Accepted Answer

Here's my little advice about players or guys who show an interest but don't put action too their interest. When a guy has a girlfriend it all depends on the girlfriend's jealousy or attitude towards the boyfriend having girls as friends. Recently it shows that women tend to be more insecure, which means the girlfriend may interfere with the friendship at all costs. There are unlikely chances that some women are more willing for the boyfriend to have more friends. (since he's a player I'm sure the girlfriend knows this and will be a bit more nervous around him meeting new girls.)

He honestly seems open to a friendship more than a relationship with you, Men are more obvious when they're the player type, they'll let you know in a really clear way that he's interested in you. There are more types of players than there are sensitive guys and they're easy to read if you put your own emotions aside. 

If you're worried about accidentally messing things up between the two, make sure you ask him if it's okay that you're both friends. If he says it is in any way then It should be fine. If the girlfriend approaches you then she feels threatened with her relationship with him. Another factor that she's not exactly confident within herself.

To answer the final question, any guy and girl will have difficulties remaining friends within someone who's in a relationship. There's a small line making a border between you both. Be friends but don't get to close you don't want to cause trouble for yourself and him. 

Email me if you need advice again ! (miniemochild@rocketmail.com)

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There isn't a problem with talking to him when he has a girlfriend as long as it goes no further than that..

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