How do I talk to my wife about seeking therapy for BPD?

Hi there your question tugs at my heart because I have bpd and I no my partner is struggling to deal with my illness also...

Firstly from your wifes point of veiw if she has bpd or any thing else for that matter she would be struggling herself to deal with her own feelings and maybe is too scared to tell you she feels theres something up with her.

For you, you need to be a support to her and yourself. I no this is hard to ask but could you really deal with her if she has a mental illness are you strong enough mentally urself to cope.

If she is diagnosed to be honest it still wont get any easier not for a long time in a slow process of extremely hard work and patience etc.

Anyway first things first I believe either you approach her and have a chat being sure to tell her youll be there of you can be that is and tell her exactly how you feel or... your marriage could suffer because you and your wife suffer in silence...

Bad communication is a forfront of so many problems.

If your wife agrees opens up etc your next stop is both go to her gp and explain the situation and it all will unravel from there... its likely to get messy for a while with huge ups and massive downs but for love its worth it!!!!

A massive good luck to you both and take care and Iam glad you are trying to help as so many would just leave...

Yours kindly Amy

You don't tell her go see therapy for a disorder you think she has. You start the therapy with her as a couple with a Psychologist because you two are having trouble communicating. If she does have borderline personality disorder the therapist will quickly recognize it and diagnose it referring her for individual treatment and in some cases even medication. This way if you're right, it is the professional telling your wife and if you wrong the two of you should still begin to get along better as problems get resolved with more effective communication.

Start with couples counseling. She's much more likely to go along if you go together to work on the relationship, then you can have individual sessions.