Relationship break healthy? Advice needed?

Let me summarize.

"My husband is a douchebag. What do I do?"

My answer: Leave. Permanently.

I know my words will fall on deaf ears but I'll give it a shot anyway.

I advise you to look up abusive relationship on google.

Your husband will not change. Once a hitter, always a hitter.

He will always hit you

He will always curse at you

He will never respect you

You don't love him, you are emotionally dependent on him, because he has stripped you down mentally and you have lost all sense of self respect and you "think" you have nowhere to go no means to survive.

If you run away for a while but leave the door open for him to chase you, he will. He will act very nice and sweet until he feels like he has you back, and then the hitting and cursing will return.

You have a very high chance of becoming a victim of domestic homicide.

You have a very high chance of screwing up your kids for life - your daughters will be emotionally scarred and seek abusive husbands because that's all they know. Your sons will become abusive and hit their wives.

The best thing you can do right now is to leave, and leave for good. But as you are leaving, watch your back, as that's the time when your husband is most likely to want to kill you impulsively.

I hope you realize that the situation you are in is quite dangerous, and love doesn't occur where there's danger. The sooner you get out and close that chapter in your life, the better.

I used to be in your shoes as soon as so i've some expertise. You guys are nonetheless pretty younger, so you must set some healthy boundaries correct off the bat. Establishing your own unbiased lives is obviously the first-class advice i will give you. For those who do not need your own factor going for you, then you don't have anything to deliver to the desk in your relationship (apart from arguing), and when/in case you guys had been to break up once more, what would you will have going for you?? Devote your self to institution, work, exercising, whatever it is that you simply do. And be certain that these things come first before your relationship at this point (early within the recreation). If you guys each and every have your possess lives become independent from each different, it offers you extra time to miss each and every other, less time to argue, and without doubt more to speak about! I do not think it's a obstacle to speak on the phone day-to-day or every other day in case you are busy, and striking out one-two instances per week is a pleasant begin. As long as you place boundaries for each other, you'll each end up happier together now, and in addition happier ultimately in the event you break up because you won't be left by myself with out a lifestyles going for you outside of each different. Once you guys are older, the principles for a healthful relationship exchange just a little bit. Particularly if you are talking about marriage, humans are usually at a factor in their lives once they don't argue regularly, and they are able to be around each and every other for a couple of days at a time without any problems. I might say don't rush into anything. You understand you made a mistake as soon as, and now it's time to do things the right manner. Just right success!

Dear young lady, I have been married for the past 49 years and still love my wife as the day when we married. however, we have had our ups and downs, remember 'true love never runs smoothly all the time' but if I dared threatened or hit my wife she would be off like a shot. Your Husband needs to see a councillor for anger management. Don't live a life of regret, because that's how it will end up. If he really loves you he will want to rectify his ways . Taking a break from a relationship will only cause more misery for you both. Get professional help! Good luck to you both and hopefully there is a future for your marriage.

leave his *** you don't have to live like that no man should ever hit a women and you shouldn't let him go back home to family he's treating you like trash, how can you say you love him after he hits you he should be sitting in jail right now, he must scare you alot for you not too seek help so that tell me you really don't love him your affraid of him thats no way to have to live these day there are laws out there to protect you and your not using them to get help go find that guy that will treat you with love trust and respect thats what you need and missing from this *** hole you are calling your husband, one day he's really going to hurts you then what are you going to do, take up for this piece of **** and say he didn't mean it,knowing its been going on for a long time and you did nothing too stop it, I hope you get help, you living on a chance he doesn't kill you someday

You need more than a break hunny. Hitting is not ok...under any circumstance..if your not strong enough to leave him for that then you need therapy.. If you guys want to work it out, go to marriage counseling. But any guy who would lay a hand on me I'd run for the door..because that shows a manipulating, controlling man, who is insecure.

YOU can not change HIM..he will only do so if he wants to. So all you can do is go to a pro and talk it out.