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Are lulls in conversation bad signs for a relationship?

My boyfriend and I (both 22) have been dating for 1.5 years. He's great, and I really love him. After thinking about our relationship recently, however, it feels like we never have conversations. At school we see each other basically every day. So rather than talking, we do a lot of things together like watch a movie or cook (a lot of the times, his roommates are there). On dates, we usually just talk about the food we're eating rather than conversing about something else. I've tried to lead the conversation away from our food but usually it just falls flat.

Now we graduated and are at our respective homes (long distance). Our texts are usually like status updates about what we're up to, which is fine. But even our phone calls feel the same way. There are a lot of lulls in conversation and it doesn't sound like my boyfriend is actually listening to what I am saying. We talk for 15 minutes at a time. I used to talk for hours on the phone with other boyfriends so why does this seem different?

He's really important to me and I would hate to hear that this is a sign of a relationship that won't work. But what do you guys think? Honest opinions.

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  • 8 years ago
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    The lulls mean that its over and will never work out. You previous boyfriends were probably closeted which would explain their chattiness. Time for you to move along to better.

  • Tricia
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    basically it sounds as though he's secretive and taking you for granted. you don't really KNOW him. you're letting your emotions rule your head..quit that. there are way too many bad/poor relationships out there...you don't need to be part of that. have a long sit down discussion with hom about your feelings and impressions and see if he's willing to work on your relationship. if he doesn't want to make a definite effort, then move on...lifes too short .

    Source(s): life experience
  • 8 years ago

    Hello! =)

    Well... to be honest with you, it seems like either one of you is starting to get bored :/ my advice to you would be to TRY to talk about other things than food etc. xD But if it seems like you can;t take it anymore, and if it really starts to bother you, tell him how you feel! if you ever wanna talk about it you can Tweet me at : @KorinaLonga (if you have twitter)

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