how to cope with all this .... misscarrage ...?

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Fout out 4 weeks ago I was 14 weeks pregnent with twin from what they could see both possibly girls. I was hoping to name one  arabeth  after my late sister who shade the middle name and the other after my grand mother joycelin because I was carry close with my grand mother  well last saterday. My grandmother passes from a stroke this made me sad but made the naming a must. Then this Friday  I misscarred   and have misscarred both my baby's    I am at an emotional low and do not know what to do ...  and then not telling my mom yet was a mistake I shade totally forgot until she had told me happy mothers day that that is today so I had to brake the bad news  how do I move forward  how is some one sopos to deal with this much death  .... I could really use some self help advice  or some suggestions  how to man age from Andy one who shade dealt with Andy thing like this I'm just AF a loss big time :(

Sophie · Accepted Answer

I am sorry to hear about your loss. I would suggest grief counselling when you are ready. A book the grief recovery handbook by John w James and Russell Friedman helped me and still does. A loss is a loss. Now when I think about my lost one there is no remorse regret deep sadness guilty feeling anger or other awful feelings. I took me few months. Take your time and don't think everything is fine or listen t people with good intentions but misplaced advices on how to get better. You have to go through a grieving process to be able to reach a certain state and live your live. The book helps you through the process as a guide - it s very hard but surprisingly effective. it makes sense all through (you think yeah yeah oh yeah thats true....) but you are still in pain...until you reach the final stage of recovery and that's when it really makes sense. 
Take care of yourself. Xx

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