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Feels like I'm constantly fighting an uphill battle..?

My husband and I separated three months ago. We have a 4 year old child. He had a relationship (still has) with a woman for the last 6 months of our marriage. He lied and still lies. It's like dealing with a child. He wants to come back, I said no. Then he wants to come back as a roommate to save money to get his own place, I said no. Every time I say no, he quite literally throws a tatrum. I work a high stress demanding job full time. I take full care of my daughter. I am exhausted...emotionally..physically. I don't have family here. I have limited support. It's easier dealing with a 4 year old than a 35 year old. I need words of encouragement...or discouragement....whatever you feel like saying or not saying...go ahead. Today, this hour, this minute..I want to give in. Tomorrow is another day.

Update:

our court date is set for two weeks from now. I feel like I just have to make it until then, then all will be...somewhat well. As for my daughter...I'd rather she be here in her home, her safe environment and have him come here, than have her go somewhere else. I'm not letting him move back in...I just need a day off this battle. Even typing about it helps..it's cathartic, right. Comiscerating.

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  • 8 years ago

    My wife has 8 sister and they all never had a divorce .

    Its like this ( old school Spanish ) we have been married 40 years.

    The woman is the boss in the house why because she is a woman and deserve that respect she is the corner stone the fire place that keeps every one warm with out her there is no family . if you’re the man reading this if you get angry you can go outside to the yard I do not care if you bought everything in that house and the house if you do not have that respect for your wife then your no man. I don’t just say I am lucky to have my wife but I say it is an honor to be married to her see as a man you can work and even boss other men around if you would but at home she is boss because you love her and she is the corner post of the family she can work outside the home and be who she wants to be and you should support her as she supports you. its an even relationship but when at home ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Find a man that will respect you Ms. he should have never went out on you - I wish good luck for you bye

    Source(s): life love
  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Hi...whatever you are feeling now, don't give in to his demand. If he is having problem, that is his problem. He cheated on you. He cannot respect his marriage, he does not deserve anything from you. Not even a pity. Please harden your heart. What he did is an unforgivable act. The beginning sometimes always hard, but you will move on eventually.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    don't take him back. if he wants to save money (why would u care about his money anyway) he can move in with his gf. and why do u even communicate with him? he must meet with the child outside of your home.

  • 8 years ago

    Keep saying no. You don't owe him any favors.

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