Was I right in canceling vacation due to wife's bathing suit choice?

I do not agree with a wife wearing anything that makes her husband feel uncomfortable. She is supposed to honor her husband with how she dresses, not make other men flock to her. I can understand you not wanting other men to look at her sexually; there's nothing wrong with that at all. She is married and shouldn't be inviting other men to look at her in that way. If my husband told me he was uncomfortable with something I was wearing, I'd change immediately because I dress to impress him. It's odd that your wife refused to change her bathing suit if she truly only wanted to impress you. If she wanted to look sexy for you, she should have bought lingerie for the bedroom. It sounds like she just wanted to get attention from showing off her body in public, which is disrespectful to you. I think it was really drastic to cancel the trip over that, but I can understand why you did it; you felt that strongly against other men viewing your wife sexually. I think your wife acted as a child in the matter and not a selfless spouse like she should. She'll realize this and get over it. I do understand her being tired of the "mom" swim suits though, but there are plenty of conservative two pieces that are super stylish and cute but don't show off everything you've got. Maybe convince her to take one of these instead. I do think a getaway after all those years of parenting together are finally over is a wonderful thing!

Other people are probably not going to agree with my answer, but I have a really conservative view on things like this...I believe in dressing how your husband likes instead of to impress other men.

Definitely wrong to cancel your trip man. You guys must be married close to if not 20yrs now right? So what if your wife wants to wear something like that. Im married 7yrs and been with my wife 15yrs, we have a 5yr old and we are in our lower 30s. I love in FL so thongs are normal here. My wife has a beautiful, fit body with a butt that could rival JLO's and you BET I let her wear a thong. You should have at least gave her the opportunity to switch the thongs for a high cut brazillian bikini. These are cut high so maybe half of your wife's butt would be exposed instead of the whole thing. Look I see where you are coming from but at 40yrs old and especially if your marriage has been good all these years, let her wear it. It will turn you on I swear!! The bottom line, men may be looking but she is coming home with you and if it makes her feel sexy, then YOU are the one who benefits. Dude these women fantasize about other men ALL THE TIME. It doesnt matter if your Brad Pitt, his wives probably fancy other men also...... Good luck man. Hopefully all this worked out already but give her a little freedom, the rewards are worth it...

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Was I right in canceling vacation due to wife's bathing suit choice?

My wife and I who are in our early 40's had recently been planning our first vacation alone in a long time, seeing as our only child is now in college. My wife has always wanted to go on a romantic tropical vacation so that is what we chose. Although my wife is very attractive and in amazing...

yes, i think you were wrong to cancel the trip that was meant to be romantic, as in, you two love only each other and will be enjoying the vacation together.

if your wife has a nice body, then i think you should have allowed her to wear a suit of her choice while with you, in a location where such a suit is appropriate.

i do find it difficult to believe, however, that with such a conservative attitude towards the human body as you obviously have, that your wife would deliberately buy 3 suits that she must have known would upset you.

more to this than meets the eye?

if she doesn't reconsider your preference to you not wanting her to be seen by other men in a revealing suit, while on vacation with you,then maybe she's not flattered that you feel that possessive about her.

you better talk things out, without huff and puff and putting the old foot down.

Okay everyone is telling you how you are in the wrong here? So may I add my 2 cents? They are all wrong, she is in the wrong. I am 17 and a mom, and lemme tell you if she is a mother and married that is wrong. If she loved you she wouldn't try to wear something like that. Even when I was 16 I didn't wear anything like that. That's kind of trashy if you ask me. If she was wearing them for you she wouldn't be wearing them in public where other men could admire her body, sir, lemme tell you you are in the right here. I'd do the same thing if I were in your shoes. Good luck kind sir. And have a great day. Also, I would have just went and bought her a bikini that didnt show so much of her body. Good luckk!

~Kelsi

I don't agree I think your wife should dress like she chooses this vacation was to get the juices flowing again why would you shut her down.Boring isn't cool your not a kid anymore stop being so jealous you'll have a better time and stop being so paranoid .

No, you were not right, at least in my opinion. I would love my early 40s wife to wear a sexy swimsuit in front of strangers. I don't even know why. But, what is concerning is how strongly you each feel about your positions. You are seem to be insecure for some reason, and more clearly you are trying to control her, which is not cool. You will fail one way or the other. But, is she just fighting you, interested in exhibitionism, or does she have something else on her mind? You two need to talk. And, you need to be cool!

You were wrong to cancel that trip. She is going on a romantic date with u and she wanted to spice it up a little because she wanted to have fun. U are supposed to make other guys want ur wife. But if she wants to show off her body like that then u should of just said to tone it down a little not cancel the damn trip. SHE IS 40 and probably bored soo she just went a bizarre because u r boring her soo spice up a little and call her sex the next da hope that helps

Tough one. If you are secure in your marriage then that will be helpful. You wife is proud of her body and her body is your body and yours hers. So you need to get you a skimpy suit for yourself and show her you'll ware one too be cool about it. It may be the funniest pictures in your photo album 40 years from now.

If another guy stairs down your wife make sure he knows she's a cute one and she's mine. Or maybe she wont like your suit and not want to go anywhere.

I am 52 years of age and recently went to wonder laa in Bangalore. My husband is 60 years old. and since I am blessed with very good figure and as I look only 40 years of age I just went out playing in the water in a one piece swim suit and about 100 people around us were looking at me as none of them 50 young women all in Bermuda and a top were looking with so much admiration towards me. I enjoyed ever bit of it and my husband was with me all the time clinging me.

Next time I will try with two piece bikini

You are totally wrong.

When my wife use to push me out of my comfort zone it added spice to our marriage. Once she was the only wife or GF who joined the guys & me in walking to a pond to go skinny dipping. At one point I saw her talking to two of my friends who were really checking her out. She latter e-mail me at work about that day. "Do you remember when we went skinny dipping with the guys....... Neither one could take their eye's off my breasts. They would stand there talking to me, but they never made eye contact. their eye's were glued to my breasts. I felt so beautiful and sexy realizing how much they wanted to touch me. I'm sure they would have given anything to lick and suck my nipples. which were "standing at attention" under their gazes. I know their wives would have had a fit if they'd seen the way their husbands couldn't take their eye's off me. Even now I get a rush thinking of it. My nipples are getting hard and I'm feeling a stiring you know where." That day I was uneasy with the situation but also I was proud of her for being so bold and brave, and also for being so hot.