Why would you marry someone who you have never had sex with?

Bobby,

LOL! Most divorces are NOT caused by bad sex. Where did you hear that? Most divorces are initiated by women and are because (according to what they write on their filing papers) "they outgrew their spouses". What does that mean? I don't really know. Perhaps it means the wife is tired of working, cooking, cleaning and etc. while the husband sits and plays Play Station and gets drunk.

For millions of years people have married without first having sex. Sometimes sex worked out well for the couple, sometimes it didn't. Despite the fact that 97% of American couples currently have pre-marital sex, you only have to spend 5 minutes online to know that plenty of couples still have sexual problems once married. Why?

Sex is about more than just compatibility. It's about respect and compromise, knowledge of the opposite gender, good health (medications, depression, etc. are all factors), good quality of life (overwhelm and fatigue and etc. can decrease sex drive) AND THE RELATIONSHIP AS A WHOLE (most women don't want sex with their husbands when they are feeling unloved and abandoned just as most men feel emotionally distant when their wives don't want sex).

Also, sexual desires can change over time and with life circumstances. The highly sexual young man can find himself afraid of sex during his wife's entire pregnancy. The moderately sexual young woman can become highly sexual all of the sudden in her 30's.

What's my point? I do think there are advantages to pre-marital sex just as I think there are disadvantages. But regardless, anyone who thinks that sexual compatibility is the FOUNDATION and most important part of marriage is unlikely to have a marriage that lasts.

I don't know about that... Most of the world has had sex before marriage... without a doubt.... saving yourself for marriage is the best thing you could do... 1, if you sleep with someone who is not the one (before you meet the one)...then the one you marry will be paranoid and jealous and possible slightly angry... yeah, I know it is not cheating, but then it just means that the one you marry is not that special to you, in a sense... and 2, if you sleep with the one (before being married to him).. then marriage is nothing special, it is nothing different from boyfriend, girlfriend... Marriage is supposed to be something unique and special... you will ruin it with sex before marriage... divorces may end in not enough sex, no sex, old age/incapabilities.. but you can't honestly think that all the divorce rate is soo high because of all those people saving them self, right?

Who the hell told you most divorces are caused by bad sex?? Sex is never bad. Communication is bad, and that problem manifests itself in all facets of a partnership, notably the bedroom.

Believe what I was taught to be virgin until married. Now I know the three date rule. You have three dates to prove to me I can afford you that you would be good mother for the children that you will be good wife for me. If any of those turn out to be not true I am gone before we have sex. Then sex or I will never see you again. It better be good or you better be willing to try to satisfy me or no next date. Took me to long to learn this. If she had a chance to stay the week end knowing there would not be an other with her favorite male star all women would no matter what they say. If she is still a virgin after 21 no first date.

Most divorces are caused by differences in how you spend money.

you assume people can't learn sex? Sex can be learned and improved on. Personality? Not much. Some people are religious and $$, selfishness, cheatimg, abuse etc are the reasons why people divorce.

Nope. Physical compatibility is very important in a couple so you should make sure it's there before you marry someone.

because i am Indian. in India max people have sex after marriage only. and they have a happy married life with the same person all thre life........

I didn't.

brain dead,stupid