Am I being selfish? Is my husband right to be angry?

STOP ......STOP....STOP.....

Let me give you a piece of serious advice....NEVER listen to any advice unless it is OBJECTIVE...

I just read all the other answers and it confirms all my fears....

FIRSTLY men should never give advice to men and women should never give advice to women.....!!!!!!! AND WHY DO YOU THINK I WOULD SAY THAT?????????????

BECAUSE in both cases the advice will be biased.....

Have a look at these answers here which all say the man is "JEALOUS and SELFISH".....

Not one of these comments is worth one cent.....BECAUSE not one of them is objective..

I AM A MALE and i stand here before you ready to cop the wrath of every female tongue BUT i do not care about their pathetic man hating, biased attitudes.....INSTEAD i am going to try to be objective for you and see if i can find a path for you which will satisfy both you and your husband .....AFTER-ALL that is what a good marriage is about isn't it......MAKING things so you both are winners....

Firstly keep in mind that solutions to any problem require common sense....You both need to take the approach to try to find genuine solutions that you can both accept...

On the surface your husband may seem jealous, and selfish BUT maybe it is more that he genuinely loves you and really cannot handle you going away on something like that... MAYBE he has not had a holiday either (Would have been good to know that)....BUT either way that is not a consideration here....

I agree with you that you have every intention to be 100% faithfull and to do exactly what is planned for the trip BUT that also does not matter.....

AND i agree that maybe he could just be a little understanding and realise you have never done anything out of place..... MY only comment to that is....WHY START NOW..??

YOU SOUND LIKE A TRULY AMAZING WIFE..... You sound like a wife that nearly every guy i know would like to have BUT not if you go on that trip....

YES i know it is innocent and i know you will most likely do nothing that would cause problems and maybe your husband is wrong and maybe he should let you go ....

BUT here's the thing and this is where being objective differs from everyone else.....

THE REASON you should not go is nothing to do with your husband and what he says and does....

THE REASON you do NOT go on the trip is because your husband and your daughter mean more to you than everything else.....

YES it is wonderful to dream and to even consider and it would be an amazing thing to do but not if it poses any danger or pressure to your family.....

YOU should have discussed this with your husband before you got excited or considered going....

AND i will add this...i would expect the same from him...

I do not condone men taking liberty's from there marriage either.....

THE only way i can vindicate you going on that trip is if you handle it this way....

YOU give him the choice... IF he says yes then go and if he says no then accept his decision but maybe set up a family holiday in it's place.....

What would be wrong to suggest you will accept his decision with no regret but you want serious plans to have a family holiday together within one year....AND then work out something romantic and special to do together...

LAST thing

Do not listen to the advice of people who cannot be objective...

I know one thing....i can see you have a great marriage and would like to hear about your amazing family holiday....

Good Luck

Husband is in the wrong but friend should have checked with husband if it was ok for you to go and I don't me for his permission, I mean does it suit everyone, obviously it suits you but it obviously upsets husband by you being away for a few days. It must be great to have rich friends and I presume you are in UK and check the flight because I do not think a helicopter would be able to fly that length of time to Italy? - would husband have been so angy if you were going away same time to a local spa? Good Luck

I think you should tell your husband everything you've written here. Promise him you won't do it often and you really just want to go this once and have some fun. Tell him if he wants he can go on a holiday as well and you will look after your daughter.

I personally don't think you're being selfish. You are a homebody and just want to go on a holiday and have some fun.

No your not in the wrong at all, he is just jealous. He should see how much you do and be happy for you to have a break. it would be even nicer if he organized something like that and not your best friend. Any way don't worry about it you go away have an amazing time and come home all refreshed. :)

No your not being selfish by wanting to go with your friend. she invited you nothing Wong with that. but you should of talked it over with your husband first so he would know what you had planned and you all could talked about it and seen how he felt about it first . maybe he would of felt different if you would of talked it through with him first. maybe now he feels left out or something if you never talked to him about it before saying you would go with her. you should always talk to your husband about stuff like this first off. by not talking to him and seeing how he felt about it is not fair to him. how would you feel if he decided to go on a trip with his friend and he never talked to you about if first to see how you felt about it? sometimes you have to put your self in their place and see how you would feel if it were you in his shoes. so it depends if you talked to him before telling your friend you would go with her. when your married you should talk things out together and see how the other one feels about it. and just talking it over can help solve things like this. I think you should be able to go with your friend and have a break but its really up to you and your husband if you go or not. remember he comes before your friend does. he is more important and treat others the way you would want to be treated and you can't go wrong . maybe after talking to him and telling him you would enjoy going and all he will change his mind. good luck.

he is simply jealous of your opportunity and he doesn't want to take care of your daughter stay alone fro some days...

but a caring husband should be happy you had this opportunity... since it's 5 years you had no holydays

He is just jealous. Make him a nice dinner and he can deal with it for FOUR fricken days. He might be more intimidated because he didn't do it for you.

He's jealous and insecure. Is not like you planed this for yourself without him knowing, its a gift, whats his problem.