Me and two other accidentally found out, that my close friend could be gay. What to do?

Some people are idiots, ignore them.

OK, that said. I would tell the other two that I was asking them not to tell anyone else and then I would go to the boi in question, privately, tell him I was ok with gays, tell him I knew, and ask him to not bother lying to me or covering up that it was really totally fine with me and he was my friend always but x and y also knew.

Unless you are in Deep South - at your age the number of people who will care is small and you can easily rally people to your friends defense if you try by making fun of any bigots -- "oh look, bigots, how 1950s" "you know, they've shown most homophobes actually want d*cks in their *ss (they have by the way) -- what are YOU covering up bigot." Etc. If you are at all popular this will totally turn the situation on the bigots and it will die off quickly.

Kind thoughts,

Hermes

Well ignore all the stereotype stuff. Stereotypes mean nothing. Just because he is into theatre, does not mean he is gay. And just because he doesn't play sports doe not mean he is gay. When you said he was all over you, and tickling you and such, does he do that to anyone else? Is he a "touchy" kind of guy, or was that the first time he has ever acted like that to any guy. With the "gay comments" do you think he was just kidding, because unfortunately people like to joke about that topic. Next time he makes a gay comment than just tell him that you are cool with him being gay before he says just kidding. If your friend really is in fact gay, than support him. And let him know that you have his support.

I don't agree with many of these posts. YOU didn't violate anything. You're trying to do the right thing. I wouldn't say anthing to the other guys. You can't control the actions of others. I WOULD go to the friend and tell him what happened. Say something like:

"___ and ______ told me they were going to mess around with you on facebook, and saw that you had been visiting some gay websites. I don't know if it's true or not, and I don't care if you're gay or not. If you need someone come out to, I'm here for you, but otherwise it's none of my business. I just wanted you to know what's going on so you aren't surprised."

And let it go at that.

The three of you have not only violated his personal space, you have committed a crime. Accessing someone's computer, and accessing files you are not supposed to have access to can be reported as a crime.

It's bad enough he has friends that would do "that..." then you are going to give him grief about what you found? If you found actual pornography, that's a whole separate issue between him and law enforcement.

Many people have "Most Visited Sites" enabled on their computer. They sometimes also have an option where the search bar will "fill in" the names of sites based on what other people have been looking at. First, you can't tell from there that he actually went there. Second, many sites send "recommendations" to people who have not expressed in interest in them at all.

Furthermore, he may have been searching for something and those where the words he was using to search. Most people, when they get to know a site, know how to pull it up in a pinch. You also said, "it said something like ......" so, you don't even know exactly what it said.

I can discuss this all day. There's no reason to tell him what you "know." It's time to tell him you hacked into his computer. I don't think the friendship(s) will last any further than that sentence, as well it shouldn't.

If he 'may be gay', then you really didn't find out anything, did you?

From what I can tell, you're jumping at a bunch of hints, but nothing concrete. So... I'd ignore it unless he says something, and move on with your life. If he's your friend, then he's your friend. And if he wants to tell you about his sexuality (assuming you're right), then he'll do it in his own time. If he does, and you're a good friend, you'll be there for him.

Since the three of you basically invaded his privacy and the other two might be planning on messing with him I think it's only right to let him know and warn him as well. Letting him know that you're alright with it if he is or isn't that's definitely a great thing to do for someone in (potentially) his situation. He might react a little negatively if you get too accusatory so try to keep it to facts (we saw ___, we assumed you were ___, he said he would ___).

Acting like you don't know anything might be awkward. It's okay that he's gay (if he is) but don't make him feel like an outcast cause that causes suicidal tendencies. He may be experimental or curious and that's fine too. be there for him and don't allow your friends to babble to everyone else, have a conversation with them.

Problem with telling is that A) he'll think you're the snoop, regardless and B) what if you're wrong? Have you never looked at some type of porno that you'd be ashamed for your friends to know about? If not, you're a saint.

Just leave him be if the others slag him off behind his back defend him. Also strangely enough a hetero person can do stuff over gay porn it doesn't make them gay it's just one of them strange things.

Just tell him what happened. That way he is at least prepared if one them other guys go say something. It wasnt fault be since you say that youre the closest to him of the three that would be the friendly thing to do.